With all the SD17 drama I was wondering if this would end up happening. School starts in 2 days and SD17 has not been to our house this summer except for 1 time she had to come for a dental appointment. She ended up puking on her bedding and leaving it a full day and telling me about it after she left (see my blog about the gross situation!). DH had not heard from SD17 or BM about what the plan was for school as last year the SD17 and SD18 were week on week off.

Will try to make this as short as possible....

SD17 and DH have a rough history...DH was originally primary for years, then it went to 50/50 during COVID, then SD17 was horrible to everyone in the house, would be rude, not respond etc. She descided to stay with BM for about a year during COVID because she didn't want to follow the rules of being kind to others. She came back for this past school year and nothing has really changed other than DH is disengaged and is just biding  his time until she flies the coop. 

SD16 has a history of talking to random people she finds on the internet, a couple examples are:

1.  a few years ago she met some Sweedish girl on instagram and proceeded to have a 3 hour long phone call with her which we found on the phone bill when they tried to charge us almost $1,000 for international calling

2. our parental control app on her phone saw instagram messages back and forth with some random account asking her for pictures, which she claims she never sent, her excuse was he was a troll account and she was just wasting his time for fun 

My other blogs explain the whole issue with SD15, but basically she chose to go live with BM (DH was primary before then) back in August 2020. We did not see her at all for 6 months, her first 2 visits were pretty decent, we could tell she was putting effort in. After that she basically only came when she wanted DH to be a taxi to/from things with her friends.