You can only change you. You are the one driving him to school, stop doing that. Stop any cooking, cleaning, laundry or paying for any of his bills (if you do). Your SO can pay for 2/3 of every bill and you pay 1/3. If he wants food for his son, he can shop for it himself. Then decide how long you will stay in this situation.
I have been living with MS for 25 years now. Yes, now it definitely is in a progressive state. I will find out just how much when I get my MRI in Sept.
Who is just in school from 8-10:30 and graduating n December.. What's up with that? Is he making up missed credits or something? Or in an alternative program of some kind? Just curious. He sounds like one who could have benefited from a job training track, if we had more of them in the US.
I agree about job training though! I wish there were more trade school options in our high schools. I run the office for a large builder and let me tell you it is almost impossible to find young Brick Masons, Plumbers, Electricians, Welders, and Carpenters- They are dying fields that are still critical. The pay these guys make is way better than many college graduates.
We are fortunate here in Ohio, and have good vocational schools at the high school level (they're called "career centers" now). Not so much in other states where I've lived. Still not as robust as in a lot of other countries though.
He not a child he’s a man. Stop doing anything for him. Disengage!!! Do you really think the military will want him ? Someone who coul d not finish HS on time. The military really don’t eant losers. So don’t get your hopes up that the military is going to solve your problem
I agree. I hope you have a backup plan should the military not want him ... I recommend starting with the rule that once he is out, he does not get back. It's time he started figuring out his life. His father fearing he will lose him to drugs if he has to leave is NOT enough reason for you to put up with his nonsense.
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So if you can't control their
So if you can't control their behavior and you are miserable, what are you going to do?
What changes can you make to improve your life and be happy?
Make me happier
I’m gonna let his BF deal with it.
You can only change you. You
You can only change you. You are the one driving him to school, stop doing that. Stop any cooking, cleaning, laundry or paying for any of his bills (if you do). Your SO can pay for 2/3 of every bill and you pay 1/3. If he wants food for his son, he can shop for it himself. Then decide how long you will stay in this situation.
Happy now
I am done with taking him anywhere. His BF can figure out how to do it.
Other family
I can go stay with my sister or mom
MS
I have been living with MS for 25 years now. Yes, now it definitely is in a progressive state. I will find out just how much when I get my MRI in Sept.
This is the kid
Who is just in school from 8-10:30 and graduating n December.. What's up with that? Is he making up missed credits or something? Or in an alternative program of some kind? Just curious. He sounds like one who could have benefited from a job training track, if we had more of them in the US.
Going into the military will
Going into the military will take care of that!
I agree about job training though! I wish there were more trade school options in our high schools. I run the office for a large builder and let me tell you it is almost impossible to find young Brick Masons, Plumbers, Electricians, Welders, and Carpenters- They are dying fields that are still critical. The pay these guys make is way better than many college graduates.
Agreed
We are fortunate here in Ohio, and have good vocational schools at the high school level (they're called "career centers" now). Not so much in other states where I've lived. Still not as robust as in a lot of other countries though.
He 18 YO
He not a child he’s a man. Stop doing anything for him. Disengage!!! Do you really think the military will want him ? Someone who coul d not finish HS on time. The military really don’t eant losers. So don’t get your hopes up that the military is going to solve your problem
I agree. I hope you have a
I agree. I hope you have a backup plan should the military not want him ... I recommend starting with the rule that once he is out, he does not get back. It's time he started figuring out his life. His father fearing he will lose him to drugs if he has to leave is NOT enough reason for you to put up with his nonsense.