So I met the man of my dreams.  Except he has the son of my nightmares. A little about the past to help. I was married 20 years.  I am only 40 now. My three children are no angels but the oldest my son is 19 with his own home.  My middle daughter is 18 in april, works two jobs and is heading away to school in August.  My third, daughter, is 15 a d has recently moved in with her dad because of my BF ( live in) youngest son (16). 
  The child is a problem.  Both boys have horrible language.  They remind me of the children on that movie Talledaga Nights, lil obnoxious children.  The oldest who is 18 acts somewhat right. But the 16 year old is rebellious.  A d the worst part is his dad babies him. Allows him to lay in our bed to " snuggle". That doesn't seem healthy. And it's not the place for a child of that age.  The child manipulates his father. Who feels guilty for the fact that their mother is a drunk who was abusive and is now serving jail time. I stay n my bedroom to avoid them all. Find myself hanging ouy with my ex to not be home. Things are bad and idk what to do.  Anyone with any advice I'm open.  Thanks.