BM trying to ruin my boyfriends life

The mother of my boyfriends kids is trying to make his life miserable. We have been dating for about 1 year and he has barely started bringing me around the kids. things are going great,,, BM finds out about his new GF (me) and now she is threatening him with taking kids away.

There is an 8 year old boy and 3 year old girl. He takes care of them 3 times out of the week. He does pickups after school everyday while she is at work mon-fri. My BF does everything for his kids. BM is always asking for favors as far as pickups and babysitting when they arent with him on his days. If she doesn't get her way,,,, she explodes and starts telling kids he doesn't love them ! SHE IS VERY HARD TO TALK TO AND IF DOESNT GET HER WAY , MY Bf pays the price (doesnt get to see kids)

The sons birthday is in about 2 weeks and we want to take to disneyland but the BM is not letting the kids go because she is still heated about the fact that he is bringing someone around her kids (ME) THE "BAD PERSON" ACCORDING TO HER. who i do not personally or physically know.

I TELL MY BF TO GO TO COURT SO SHE WILL STOP WITH HER THREATS. He is scared that he will be limited to seeing the kids and that it will cause trauma to his son the 8 year old if taken to court. I feel like he is scared of his BM . things need to change.

what do you guys think ?

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Go to court.

Court. Is BF scared that the

Court. Is BF scared that the boy will be asked to testify or something? What does the existing CO (court order) say ? Did the discussion of going back to court come up because there is no clear CO which outlines times, transportation, daycare, visitation, schooling, medical etc?

If there is a good CO in place, BM can piss, moan, scream and throw herself from the tower ... your BF would still have the ability to take kids to Disneyland on "his" time.

Does he pay child support?

Does he pay child support? If so, is it the same amount the courts wold require or is it much less

If he isn't paying CS or is paying less than the state requires,he may be afraid going to court for visitation will result in mom going to court for CS.

I know plenty men who allow their kids' mothers to jerk them in regards to visits, because the mothers haven't gone to court for CS.