Hormones or..??
It's been a while since my last post and honestly haven't logged on often due to MASSIVE improvements in our life at home! We now get SD EOW Fri-Sun + off days and it's worked out so smoothly for everyone. We have time to spend together after hectic work weeks and also are able to plan plenty of fun things for when SD comes over. DH is much more comprehensive and open minded and I feel that we have never been better! My relationship with SD has also improved so much. I've never disrespected her or mistreated her but DH drove a wedge into our relationship for quite some time and i feel it's going away. Now, we've just found out that we are expecting our 2nd baby (Finally!) and could not be more excited. My only issue now is that I'm feeling a little more irritable than normal (symptom) and this last weekend, though we had TONS of fun together, I couldn't help at getting annoyed by little things SD does (or doesn't do) . I remember this feeling my last pregnancy but with all kids in general but lately it's starting to feel this way and I don't know how to fix it. Has anyone else had this issue with their SKs while prego?
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It's good that you recognize
It's good that you recognize that there may be a biological reason for some of the irritation you are experiencing. Keeping that thought in your mjnd should help you moderate your response to not be too hard on her when the underlying cause of your frustration may not be 100% her.
Also.. if you get in a particularly bad head space about her.. I would try to remove yourself from the situation so you don't have to bite your tongue off. Being pregnant.. needing a nap is a great excuse.
Good idea, will definitely
Good idea, will definitely keep that in mind. It's not too bad now but I am super curious to know if others experience some weird feelings towards their SKs while pregnant.
When I'm pregnant even
When I'm pregnant even mention of SD12s name causes me a visceral reaction.
I also can stand my dog. It's some kind of territorial thing.
I never dealt with that
I never dealt with that feeling with skids but i do remember feeling extra defensive around other children such as friends' kids while i was pregnant. Like, feeling like they might have germs that would hurt the baby. It went away after giving birth.
ETA i never had to deal with skids while pregnant.
That's exactly what it was
That's exactly what it was like my last pregnancy Lmao
Very funny
During my first pregnancy, I
During my first pregnancy, I 100% felt that way about my SD. Even though she never did anything wrong, she's super sweet, I was just always in a bad mood when the weekend of her coming (we have EOWe as well) was getting nearer. I noticed myself picking a fight with my SO before and it'd kind of be my way of getting to isolate myself the whole weekend. Looking back, I was never MEAN to her but I did disengage tremendously. Now, with my second pregnancy, we're in such a better place and things are running lots smoother, so I don't notice myself getting irritated by her.
Also, my new revelation... so
Also, my new revelation... so some people love their SK's BEFORE they have their own children, then start to hate them AFTER, but it's been the complete opposite for me. I didn't have a strong bond with her before and just found the whole situation to be an inconvenience (I know, it's soo mean)! But now, as my daughter is getting bigger, I am starting to care so much more about my SD! Seeing your own child love their sister, makes you love them too I feel like.
so anyway to wrap up my post, I feel like it's totally normal to get irritated by them while pregnant, HORMONES! And hopefully afterwards (like a few months because we all know those hormones are still going strong right after giving birth) you will stop feeling that way!
Thank you! Its nice to know I
Thank you! Its nice to know I'm not alone lol. My first pregnancy was so stressful and I had so much resentment towards her and DH because they were so inconsiderate and made me miserable. But I've learned to forgive as I've seen so much change for the better ans we are in a much better place now. Im hoping for the best!
I was worried I'd feel like
I was worried I'd feel like that forever because i still felt that way up until my daughter was 4 months and I still do from time to time. And i definitely feel like when you're having your first but it's not your SO first, makes you kind of resentful about it.