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"I look mad"

That is what my 5 year old said to me today. "You look mad Mommy." After yesterday's post, thanks for all the advice, I still can not get over my husband having these calls and text messages with not one woman but two woman. I did a little more research as recommended to me and it hurt even worse. He called her Thanksgiving,X-mas eve, new years eve, V-day, even ground hogs day. What blessed holiday is left that i will be able to enjoy without the back of my head telling me that "oh yes he talked to her this day." I can not even look at him today.

Need some advice

Well I always thought the skids would be my issue. This time it has nothing to do with them but I really need some advice/words of wisdom. I just recently fell into some cell phone bills this last month. After looking it over I see a repeated number on my DH cell that I do not recognize. I ask him he says it is a side job. The next day at work I dug a little deeper. THat number appeared the month before but then I fell into another number that contact has been made with for the last 4 months. Not only calls but text messages over 100 a month. Daily contact.

6 weeks part 2

Well she is here. I was the hostest with the mostest the first night. Day 2 she went to see his school and then took off with her daughter to go shopping. That is right, she left my son and her son to play at my house for the day with my kids and husband. Then we had a plan for pizza that night. She blew all of us off including her own kids and went out. Today she met us for the game and is spening the afternoon out and about with the kids. Tonight dinner, if she shows, and then she leaves tomorrow. I think I may live through this.

6 weeks now

We have had my SS for 6 weeks now! He is doing well in school and receptive to the change. NOW tonight bio is comming to spend the weekend with him. She is not having him spend the night with her in order to keep the consistancy. This is good. BUT I must admit I am a little nervouse. I have never had her in my house in 9 years. I keep reminding myself that this is my house and I should be the one that remains comfortable. Anthing special I should do? Anything I need to do to make this knot in my stomach go away?

You guys were right!

Picked up SS last night as planned. However, our plan was not the same as BM. She was supposed to meet DH with SS and tell them together that SS was not comming back to her and staying with DH. She didn't even come meet with DH to have the "talk". Sent SS with stepdad. Needless to say, SS does not know that there is no returned trip planned. DH has to tell him tonight by himself. How selfish can we, I mean she, be. This was a request of BM to send him to us and then she pulls back. Says she can't handle saying goodbye, too emotional.

SHE IS SENDING SS BACK!!!!

BM called last week drunk, said she can't handle her son any longer. Hubby said call me when your sober! Sunday morning the phone rings. I am done will you take him. After many phone calls in the last 2 days he is comming back tomorrow. Is there anyone out there with some advice. He is a really messed up kid. What am I in for?? Don't get me wrong. I am very happy about providing my SS with a fresh start but am not really clear on what I am in for!

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What does a BM need to hear???

Youngest SS, 12 is very screwed up. BM admits that she tries but can't control him. We have offered time and time again to send him back to us. SHe often uses us as a threat to him if he doesn't shape up. What does she need to hear from us in order to send him back here. We have tried everything, this kid needs a change in enviornment to at least have a chance. Any advice from BM's, what would you need to hear or be reassured of to let your son go to live with their dad????

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Drunk SD at 15!

Christmas has now come and gone ... problem, SD goes to grandmothers for X-mas eve, we pick her up at 9, she is cold drunk! Only 15 yrs old. Grandma says what do you want me to do about it! That is the first issue, second, SD says she has a drinking problem, third point/problem, we call bio mom, open communication right??, and she says she doesn't have a problem with that and that she is aware that she drinks and smokes "on occasion" "I don't buy it for them but it is in the fridge in our house." That is what she told us. I am baffled. We don't even have alchol in our house.

This life Stinks!

Oh how I think ending this whole thing would be easier than having to spend another holiday with skids that want nothing to do with me. I have been portrade as such a piece of crap that at times I actually stop and think .. did I do something wrong. The answer is yes ... I loved these kids, wipped their asses, gone to school plays, helped with homework, made their BIO mom mother's day gifts with them, showed them that there is more to life than just finishing High School. Many other things but I will not go on an on. Now I sit and find myself down and out.

It gets worse...

After my last post, SS steals money, mom calls dad and says I am sending him to be with you, on and on it went. Dad is ready to go get the boy. BM STOPS does not return calls and then acted stupid when dad gets a hold of her. Everything has changed. She will put SS in the hospital again. Yes again! Everytime he is out of control or does something stupid, BM puts him back in the hospital. Why discipline when you can medicate! Yes some kids need medication while others need consistancy and discipline.

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