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Stepfather tells stepson everything

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Submitted by katiew on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 7:13pm

I have been married almost 7 years. My husband and I are having problems and he tells my son (18)everything. If we have a fight he tells him what I said or did and everything in between. I have mentioned that I want to separate and he told my son before I even had a chance. This is making me resent him even more and realize that I want to move on. Any thoughts?

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Submitted by dad'swife on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 7:19pm

He might want to get to your son first so he can get his version out and not be the bad guy. That doesn't change the fact that it is inappropriate and he shouldn't be discussing your marital issues with your teen son.

Sorry to hear that you are separating and divorcing Sad

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Submitted by katiew on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 8:56pm

I am sorry to be divorcing too but I cant take being blamed for everything anymore. I don't care that my son still has a relationship with my husband but I just don't want him badmouthing me to him. He really isn't a terrible person but it just didn't work out for us.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 7:34pm

I am glad you are divorcing this man. Good for you for doing that. You and your son will be much better off without this guy. What he is doing is emotional abuse. He's making you out to be the bad guy to your son and is involving him in matters no child of any age should be involved in regarding their parents. I have no use for anyone who does that.

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Submitted by katiew on Fri, 02/22/2013 - 10:15am

Should I tell my husband to keep my kids out of this or just leave it alone...My son asked me not to say anything that he told me all that his stepdad said. I dont want to betray my sons trust but I also dont want him to keep saying things to my son.