For the step-parents that had skids EOW at first, but whos SO's later on gained more custody;
Im wondering what to prepapre myself for.
hoping all goes well, SO is getting 50/50 custody for sd5 starting after summer break.
We have SD5 from the last day of school for three weeks. Then BM has her for three weeks until the first day of school, from which we will pick her up and she will stay the week, and her mom will pick her up from school the next monday and have for the the week and so on....
Were trying to figure out the best way to makes this transition as smoothly as possible for the little one.
we were going to wait for her birthday to do this, but were going to redo her room with new furniture and everything, since she will be home alot more than just four nights a month.
I guess im just afraid that she wont handle the change as well as i hope she will.
I dont know why i would think that...nerves maybe. I guess im scared she will reject being with me a lot...I guess im scared that she will say she wants to go back to her moms (she never does that, i really dont know why i think she will now)
I have all these fears that she wont be happy going back and forth every week...
Im scared that we think we are doing this for her own good, but what if it doesnt work out that way....
How did your skids take the change of custudy? Did their behavior/problems/issues improve by having a more stable family life, even though its just part time?
Any annectdotes on how your custody change went would be informative and appriciated.
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weve been doing summers like
weve been doing summers like that for as long as ive been around, 3weeks FDH and 3weeks BM.
And the last two summers FDH has told BM about phone dates for BM and SD on sundays so SD can talk to her mom and just tell her how shes been etc. All three times BM has not answered the phone and sent a message of "unless its an emergency, dont call, im on vacation." yup....nice right? Luckily we never told SD were going to call her mom, (just in case) only BM and FDH had knowledge of said set up. But you can bet your ass FDH called SD on his phone dates during the summer. If BM didnt call, he was sure to call her.
Thankfully, not once has SD asked to call her mom during the summers....so we dont push the subject with her.