Ok, so we have had ss's for a month now, BM FINALLY calls yesterday to check on them. From what I could gather from ss's end of the conversation, she is interrogating them. She wants to know every little detail. What did they eat for dinner, where have they gone, what have they done. How many fireworks did they have on the 4th. WTH???? She doesn't call for a month and then does this. It makes me so mad. And then, SS replies with things like, "I haven't eaten yet" It was 10:00 pm and he had eaten a few hours before.

Well, we made the trip across the united states to get my ss's for summer visitation and we are now home. All went relativly well with BM, except that she tried to give us directions to get out of town quicker and she wrote them ass backwards and she didn't even help the boys pack their suitcases. The boys, 11 and 9 packed all by themselves, which amounted to them having 47 pairs of underwear, 3 pair of shorts and 4 shirts for all summer, no pants, sweatshirts or anything. What is her deal? Not really a big deal anyways, we always have stuff for them here.

I checked all my voice mail messages the other night and I received the sweetest message from ss9 that made me cry like a little girl. He said, " Hi justwantpeace, I love you. This is ss9. I just wanted to call and talk to you. I love you and miss you." They have never called just to talk to ME. I get to talk to them when DH has called them, but to just call for me, that was the perfect end to a crappy day. My heart just melted. My ss's truly do love me. So I called back and BM's machine picked up, so I left a message. "Hey ss9, this is justwantpeace.

BM called the other day, our friend answered the phone, she though it was DH and proceeds to tell him that SS11 is in trouble, then puts SS11 on the phone. This is the only time she calls or has the kids call, not for DH birthday, christmas, whatever. ONLY when SS's are in trouble. SS11 got angry because his brother pulled him out of a chair or something like that and SS11 told him to "go f#$k your dog in the a$$" Of course, I don't talk to SS11 about this, but my initial thought is, where is he learning to talk like that?? He doesn't get it from us, the one time a year we see them.