It's been a while! Kind of gross topic to start with!
Hi everyone! I was on steptalk a while back (4-5 yrs ago) and wound up divorced 
(trust me with that smiley!). Anyway, I have been in an amazing relationship with an incredible man and father for the past 2 years. Everything is really, really good.
My only issue is STBSS17... he is on the spectrum and has some social issues. He LIVES for video games. So much to the point where he will not poop. Seriously...hold it for a week. We only really have him in the summertime but I can't take another overflowing toilet :sick: . His dad does the clean up and disciplines and we are totally on the same page. We are planning on him moving out with us after graduation nest year though.
Does anyone else have advice on kids who do this? I hear it is a thing... they just won't go to the bathroom until it is... well, a mountain! He isn't malicious and I don't think that he even realizes he is doing it. We ask him if he has gone and he will say yes. We figure out he lied after its too late, but I really think it is out of embarrassment.
I am seriously considering exlax or something for him to take daily so that he will HAVE to go. If anyone else knows of anything that can help, I would appreciate it. He lives with grandma right now during the school year due his father being highly deploy-able in the military. BM is not involved at all in his life. He does this with grandma too I hear, and she just makes him deal with it. However his dealing with it and my standards of clean are very different. Thank GOD for his dad!! LOL
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Fiber gummies are genius! I
Fiber gummies are genius! I will get some miralax too and have that for the mornings. This might really help his grandma too!
How in the world is this kid
How in the world is this kid going to be capable of moving out and being on his own, if he is so addicted to video games he forgets/refuses to poop?? :?
He isn't going to be able to
He isn't going to be able to live on his own for a while. We are working on an over the garage apartment for him. Like I said, on the autism spectrum and has some other issues as well. I am not expecting him to be on his own for at least 6-7 years.
Thank you so much!! That is
Thank you so much!! That is awesome news that your nephew is taking courses in programming! We are really praying for a similar outcome!!
My SS had constipation
My SS had constipation problems that went away when we reduced the amount of cheese & pasta. He loves cheese but it doesn't love him back!
Frequent constipation is not
Frequent constipation is not good for the body. I think a trip to the doctors to check if everything is ok would be wise. Have you (or someone else) talked to him about it? There could be a few reasons why he goes so infrequently. It could be painful for him, he could be not getting the urge to go or it could be diet/exercise/water related. And probably some more reasons I don't know about because I'm not an expert. But I am quite vigilant on good bowel habits and try to promote talking about it as too often people are too embarrassed to discuss it and end up going years without seeking medical advice and treatment (as one of my ex's did). My grandmother also suffered from bowel cancer so I am sensitive from watching her go through that too. If you can try not to see it as him being lazy but as a medical issue that needs attention.
When my routine gets disrupted I sometimes go a few days without pooping and I find myself very uncomfortably bloated, I can only imagine that your ss feels pretty uncomfortable too by the end of the week. I try to make sure I eat a diet high in fiber (I find breakfast particularly important) to keep myself regular.
Also...side note... I have noticed how since living in the USA the toilets seem to get blocked up here more easily than I am used to, I think the plumbing must not be able to cope as well, I have never had to unblock as many toilets as I have had to since moving here! I am sure you have already, but if I were you I would invest in a plunger for each toilet and teach ss how to use it.
Kids on the spectrum need
Kids on the spectrum need their computer time carefully monitored or this is the kind of problems it can produce. His father should take the games away unless he uses the toilet properly. Sorry, but this is obvious isn't it? Kid needs to be doing something other than play games. On the other hand I see he is 17 so, too late to put in the boundaries now.
So, grandma is looking after him. I can understand that she wouldn't be in a position to cause uproar by limiting the computer time. He is still in education but some sort of paid work during summer break or weekends would be good for him.
I agree, more fluids, more roughage but most of all more exercise.
I have a high functioning SS17 too.
Get him started on
Get him started on probiotics. My son has awful constipation and gas. Like awake every night crying. I couldn't get him regular either no matter what food we gave or withheld.
Started probiotics and in a few weeks the problem has not come back.