can't stand it anymore - i have to vent.

my husband has 3 daughters. all three of whom i was under the impression they had all moved out and had their own lives when i agreed to marry their father.

1. Kymberly is the oldest with a 5-year-old son and they are living with us right now because she's going through a divorce and is about to graduate from college next month and be a teacher. Kymberly is our 26-year-old teenage daughter, who talks on the phone constantly and thoroughly enjoys creating her own drama on a regular basis. she thinks she can trust me in so far as she freely informs me of her occasional drug use and sexual exploits......she accidentally overheard me say to her father this morning that i wished she wouldn't tell me about her promiscuous adventures because it disgusts me......I DON'T WANT TO KNOW!!!!! therefore, she slammed out of the house this morning and now she's mad at me.......ask me if i care................

2. Tiffany is the middle daughter, who for awhile, couldn't seem to stop pumping out children........she's got a 4-year-old, an 18-month-old and a 9-month-old and she still isn't married and no nuptuals are in sight.......she lives with her boyfriend, who's the father of the two youngest, but, can't see fit to marry her until he's sure she is mature enough to handle marriage and not smoke cigarettes, drink or do drugs like she's done in the past.......strange to me how it's okay to bring all these children into the world......oh well, at least they had the sense to figure out what kept causing the kids and saw fit to get her tubes tied......she and her boyfriend have always been on shaky terms and I'm scared to death when (not if) they bust up......she and the kids will be moving back home, too. they just left and went back home to Tulsa after a 5-day visit that I thought would be the end of ALL of us........her kids are in to EVERYTHING constantly and almost always screaming and running.......we were never so relieved to see anyone leave ever........it was a 5-day nightmare.............i had to take nerve pills just to get through it...........

3. Amanda is the youngest with a MAJOR drug problem........she's been out of sight for most of the year and a half her dad and i have been married, but has recently resurfaced, wanting to move back in with us because she's got no money, no job, no place to live......nothing.........she's completely down and out. she's recently done so much crack and meth that she's got sores all over her. nevertheless, we told her she could come home IF she would go to a full-fledged rehab program first - a 90-day program. she told us she wasn't going to and didn't need rehab - that WE could be her rehab........WE are not interested........so.....now she's mad at us because we just didn't tell her she could come home period......with no catches......so now she's moved back in with her mother and step-dad for the UMPTEENTH time who don't seem to care whether she goes to rehab or not. so she'll just f#ck over, yet again, her mom and step-dad, just like she always does................

now don't get me wrong - Neil and i both love the kids and their kids - but they are all so selfish it doesn't even occur to them the consequences they cause upon other peoples' lives.....they all have the mindset that if they get into trouble or screw up their lives, they can always move back in with mom or dad.........i have never known 3 kids from the same family to be so self-centered and self-absorbed in my life.

i am seriously considering leaving Neil because this stress is becoming more than i can take......i don't know what to do. i need help.