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Update on the other step mom saga...

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Submitted by jlot on Thu, 09/23/2010 - 5:59pm

As I have stated in a previous blog, my SD3’s BM has told her that two additional friends of hers should be referred to as her other step moms. At first I thought this very odd, but then I thought…whatever. Background: BM is heavily into roller derby, has two roller derby wives (weird) and now BM wants SD3 to call them step mom.

Does anyone else find this odd?

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Submitted by jlot on Mon, 09/13/2010 - 10:28am

:? Does anyone else find this….weird?

My SD3’s BM is telling my SD3 that her mom's two friends are her other two step moms. So, there is me (her real Step Mom) and then these two friends that BM just met a few months ago….who now are also being encouraged to be called step mom…..I would like to see these two other Step Moms clean up her puke when she is sick or change her wet clothes when SD3 has an accident.

First – how confusing to a child...and frankly rude to me, but whatever.

Ever distance yourself to allow needed space and look like a bad guy?

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Submitted by jlot on Fri, 09/10/2010 - 11:11am

I feel like I can’t win in this step parenting gig. My older SD had an open house last night at her new middle school. So, my DH was going to attend with her and meet her mom there – no biggie. At one point, my DH asked if I would like to go, I said, “Thanks for offering, but I think that would be a good thing for you and BM to attend with SD.” I then made plans and went about my night. Fast forward, I get home and ask how the school event went, and he says, “Good.” I ask if he and BM thought it was a good school etc…and he then tells me BM’s boyfriend went too.

Sleepless and Confused

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Submitted by jlot on Fri, 08/20/2010 - 9:56am

Well I had a terrible day yesterday…came home from work to the skids and hubby. I just needed some time alone so I immediately changed clothes and then sat on the porch and read. During this time, the girls were picked up by BM and I didn’t get an opportunity to say goodbye. Not saying goodbye isn’t that unusual, my oldest SD is 11 and very on and off with that kind of thing – she is right in the middle of puberty. I was (I am admitting this) terribly cranky – I didn’t want to take it out on the kids or my DH so I just sat alone for a while.

Just venting on gossip from BM...annoying...

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Submitted by jlot on Wed, 07/28/2010 - 10:15am

I am a little annoyed with my SD11’s BM. I live in a fairly small community and everybody seems to know everybody…I have a mutual friend with BM, no big deal, we actually have several mutual acquaintances. I am having dinner with a very good friend of mine and she mentions running into my mutual friend – they work together- and that this mutual friend proceeds to go into a whole speech about how BM is a super nice person. She is such a great mom and she is so wonderful.

How involved are your in-laws with the other bio parent?

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Submitted by jlot on Thu, 07/15/2010 - 1:11pm

I believe my DH's mom should be civil to my SD11's mother - obviously she is the mom of her granddaughter...but, I feel like she takes it to a whole other level. They call each other and when she is in town she will stop by BM's house (when the SD is not home). She constantly comments on what a great mom she is...It's sort of frustrating and annoying....just venting here.

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