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I can't deal with SD12 being so damn rude

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Submitted by jlot on Mon, 01/10/2011 - 6:14pm

I live in a smaller town…not teeny tiny, but small enough where I run into people I know often – too often if you ask me… I was shopping last weekend and while in this particular store I ran into both of my DH’s BMs and the Skids (he has two kids with two moms) – the BMs were not shopping together. In both instances, the kids and BMs ignored me. Super. I don’t know why it bothered me, but I was particularly bothered that the SD12 looked at me and looked away. We have had a good relationship, but lately she is bratty and lippy and just rude. This ticked me off.

O/T Is it me or are tweens and teens these days more disrespectful than in kids in the past?

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Submitted by jlot on Wed, 12/29/2010 - 12:13pm

I sound about 100 years old just saying this, but is it me or do tweens/teens disrespect adults more often today than in the past? I am in my early 30s and I can remember being very respectful of adults growing up. I didn't insert myself into grownup conversations, I didn't make snide comments or be rude to adults. My parents would have killed me.

BM gets a new fling and the kids look like a hot mess

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Submitted by jlot on Thu, 12/23/2010 - 2:13pm

my SD's BM has a new girlfriend....and now that she has moved in, I have noticed SD looks like a hot mess (dressing herself in non weather appropriate clotes, messy hair, needs a bath, etc.). I think everyone should be happy with someone, but I notice SD is not getting taken care of in the same fashion..she isn't homeless looking, but seriously she looks a mess when she comes over, which is a far cry from how she normally looks - all done up and matchy matchy.

Do you all notice the kids get a little neglected when the BM or BF gets a significant other?

Tried to start a holiday tradition with skids....

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Submitted by jlot on Thu, 12/16/2010 - 1:59pm

I wanted to say thank you to everyone who provided me with good ideas on starting traditions in my home with the skids. I decided on a couple things and yesterday made my first attempt: I bought each girl an ornament that I thought reminded me of them. I figured that I would get an ornament each year for them and then when they are older, they can take them to their tree. I was actually looking forward to giving them these ornament gifts.

SD3 was excited - she is 3 - to put her ornament on the tree - it was very cute. She thanks me and shows her daddy, my DH.

Skids and Holiday Traditions....do they exist?

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Submitted by jlot on Wed, 12/01/2010 - 4:02pm

So, this year I am being a Grinch of sorts….

I didn’t want to put up a tree, I didn’t want to do any festive decorating…I just wasn’t feeling it. Then my SD11 says, “But I want a tree here!” So, the DH gets the tree and we put it up. No decorations yet. We are selling our house, so much of our things are boxed away and it’s a hassel to get them out, but I decide yeah I will decorate it’s the holidays. He then tells me he will get the decorations out this weekend and the skids can help me…I reply: NO.

BM1 and house loan....

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Submitted by jlot on Sat, 11/27/2010 - 10:50am

I used to be married. I owened a house with my ExH...we divorced and it took him about 3 years to get the house shit together (getting my name off the loan, etc)...it was a long, long process. During part of that time, I was with my now DH. He assisted me in getting my lazy exH moving with the house crap. Finally, a year or so ago, it was taken care of..
Fast Forward...

Some Advice on Discipline and Disengaging with a Stepkid

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Submitted by jlot on Tue, 11/09/2010 - 5:42pm

I am so annoyed with how I am getting bent out of shape by the rude behavior of my SD12 – she is a freaking kid – yet when she is around, I am on edge. I know I am the adult and I am usually a pretty happy person. However, I hate that when she is around and in one of her rude moods, she makes me feel bad about myself and the “job” (because let’s face it – this is a nonpaying job) I am doing as a stepmom – I feel like screaming: What am I doing to YOU to make you be such a snarky brat to me?

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