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Question for all: What do you think you DH or DSO and skids would do....

ItHasGottenBetter's picture

Submitted by ItHasGottenBetter on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 3:05pm

If you left? This is mainly for CP parents, with a BM that pays little or no CS and the Dad doesn't really make much to support the skids on their own w/o Us, the SMs, help? Do you think the BMs would take their kids back full time if WE weren't around their Ex's anymore?

We all seem to be on the my DH isn't doing/providing/giving us what we need blogs and this question popped into my head. I also wonder how many BMs would suddenly be able to 'handle' their kids if there were no SM to torture.

I'll start. I know my DSO wouldn't go back to BM. DSO's Dad is in a nursing home and won't ever be let out. The Dad refused to give power of attorney to any of his 5 kids, so his 3 bedroom house sits empty. I think DSO would work it out with his siblings to live there and care for the place so it wasn't unoccupied. SD spends most of her time at her twin BFFs so nothing would change there, IDK if DSO would allow his felon sons live with him, YSS he would but I think even DSO sees the light with OSS and wouldn't let him come. As for BM taking the skids back full time. She hasn't went to court yet to try so I doubt she would.

I know w/o a doubt BM would be showing up there many nites to bring poor little exdh a good home cooked meal, dressed sexy in her size 22 nightie, EXDH I need to stay the night bc I don't have gas money'. God that just creeped me out. I would cut his penis off.

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canigetabm's picture

Submitted by canigetabm on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 3:56pm

OMG...that last paragraph made my stomach turn. That's my BM's excuse why she can't do anything and my SO gives her money to have SD15. We have SD fulltime. That was disturbing.... Haha!

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Submitted by ItHasGottenBetter on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 4:19pm

BM offered to bring DSO and skids dinner when I was out of town at conference....she did call first but he shot her down.

ItHasGottenBetter's picture

Submitted by ItHasGottenBetter on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 4:42pm

I don't subsidize for his kids either. But I carry the house and utility...but I had all that before he moved in anyway.

HotMess's picture

Submitted by HotMess on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 4:59pm

DH is CP. I'm not going anywhere. But without me he would revert back to financial f**k-it mode, and not pay his bills until his utilities are shut off. He would claim defeat before he even tried to cook affordable meals, and then drop $20 at McDonald's. He would not know his way around because I wouldn't be there to give him directions. BM would not take skids because she no longer has rights to them. Skids would be happy because they would no longer be expected to clean anything, and they would whine until DH buys them McDonalds, because that is all they care about.

Not kidding! This summer they were miserable wretches as we packed up the old apartment. One evening after work I stopped at McDonald's for takeout. When they saw it, they acted as if I found a long lost kitten. Their affections can be purchased for the price of a cheeseburger and fries. Very cheap children, indeed.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Wed, 10/15/2014 - 10:55am

These men and their kids will be just fine, because

A. They will man up and find a job (or two) that pays enough for him to support his kids and himself

or

B. Find another woman to take advantage of.

Please don't kid yourself into thinking that a man is going to completely fall apart if you walk away. A user will always be able to find a new victim.