According to DH, I must really hate his kids if I….
A little back story first. A few years ago, BM decided that she didn’t want to work anymore. So she did what any gold-digging BM would do, she filed for an increase in CS. DH has 2 kids with BM. After divorcing DH, BM remarried, had a child and divorced another man whom I will call “Bill”. BM takes them both back to court on the same day, back to back. Since they now have something in common, they started taking. This leads to DH and I, Bill and Bill’s new wife “Sarah” getting together a few times. We talked a lot about BM, and the welfare of the kids.
Fast forward to last week. Bill’s son is having his first football games. DH’s kids say they want to see his game. DH has no problem with this and takes them there. I texted Sarah to let her know DH’s kids would be there. She let Bill know. BM has a history of using the kids as a shield from any verbal confrontations. After all, only BM is permitted to have an opinion on how the kids are raised :sick: I let DH know that I had texted Sarah and he BLEW UP!
According to DH, I must really hate his kids if I sent that text and It is none of their business if DH’s kids are there. I told him that I was just letting Sarah know that the kids WANTED to see their sibling play football and were not there to be BM’s support group. He says the kids will always be BMs support. I think he is going overboard on this and I did nothing wrong.
He brought up how SD12 was upset with me last week and how I am retaliating for events last week. Last week she was crying about how she “doesn’t know me anymore and we don’t talk anymore”. Two sentences later she said “I come here to see my dad.” I told her that if you come here to see your dad, it should not bother you if I talk to you. I am cordial, but there are no more heart-to-heart conversations after some things that the SDs did and said. I do not need that drama in my life! Thank you Disengaging!
So am I wrong? Or is DH just over-sensitive when it comes to his kids?
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He now says that we are not
He now says that we are not close friends with them. Just on friendly terms with the enemy of our enemy.
Also he has been telling me to "stop caring" about his kids...ok Dh. You win. I no longer care.
He decided to drop them off
He decided to drop them off there at the game. He decided not to stay. I can imagine that Bill and Sarah were a bit put out since he did not stay.
BM was there so the kids hung out with her...
I do not go to his kids games, etc.
I can see that I need to work
I can see that I need to work on disengaging. But I was not trying to stir up any drama, just letting Bill know the skids would be there to support their half sibling.
Also, I met Bill while he was married to BM. He was always good to the skids and I feel that he genuinely cared about them. He always asks about the skids when the couples have gotten together.
This was super silly on your
This was super silly on your DHs part. I don't think it really had anything to do with your text or the game. He simply used it as an excuse because of the situation with your SD. He was waiting for a time to jab at you!!!
You sent a text to simply give them a "heads up". You did nothing wrong. He's just pussed that your not kissing SD butt!!
Update...roughly one year
Update...roughly one year later
SD13 has her play tonight. DH is going. I am not going. BM (who is in the hospital with one of her many "issues")called DH and asked him to take BM's son to the play. BM can't take him since she is in the hospital. Her 2nd ExHusband did not pick up his son tonight - no reason asked or given. Now I don't mind DH taking this kid. I just have a problem with doing anything that will remotely benefit the witch.
So DH agrees to take SD13's brother to the play. BM lives in the basement of her Mom and Stepdad's house. I ask him if BM's mom is available and he says I guess not. (how about asking DH?) I ask isn't there somone else who can take him (like BM's fiance or BM's Dad). He says I guess not. (Again How about asking DH?)I said But aren't you going to at least tell 2nd ExHusband you are taking his son to the play. He actually agreed with me!
SD13 is treated as second rate to all other BM's kids in BM's family. If the event had been for SD14, everyone would have gone AND had a dozen roses ready for her after the show! And I did not mention this to DH.
I did not text "Bill" or "Sarah". But I find it strange that BM would think that it is OK to ask her Ex to take her son somewhere. I would NEVER ask an EX to take my child(who is not theirs) somewhere !
Congrats DH you have just opened another door for the witch! Don't worry she will find a way to capitalize on this too!