Hi all.
I've been reading on this site quite sometime now and enjoy it.
I guess I should count myself lucky that I haven't had to deal with many of the issues that alot of you deal with. I do however have a crazy BM that I am finding more and more difficult to deal with.

My step children are nice and respectful and so far I don't have many problems with them. We don't see them often so I really haven't had a chance to deal with much.

My backstory is that my husband and I graduated together to many years ago. We didn't even notice each other in high school so its funny that we ended up together. We married 2 years ago next week. We had both been through divorces but some of us just never learn I guess

My husband was going through a divorce when we met each other again and I had gone through one already. All was well until the ex found out he was seeing me then their divorce immediately became my fault. I had nothing to do with it but she doesn't want to believe that she may have done anything wrong. She then began to do everything she could to postpone the divorce so it continued on for many months. Finally he said enough and he agreed to some of her crazy demands to get it over with.

Personally I would never have agreed to the things he did but it wasn't my divorce.

Anyway her demands are kind of what bring me here now cause I am not sure how much more of her craziness I can deal with.

They owned a car. She got it in the divorce and he had to pay for it. He also agreed to cover the maintenance and upkeep on the car. He was to transfer title to her when it was paid for. Fast forward to last summer. Car is paid for. Title sent to her and I even included a check for her to title it in her name. Anything to speed it along so we no longer had to deal with it. We had to keep insurance on it the entire time as well and include her on it.

Up until this time we paid for repairs to said car. Once it was titled to her we did not nor did she ask for any repairs. In everyone's mind we were done with the car.

We had to take her to court for child support reduction because the OSD20 who was 19 at the time kept lying and saying she was in college full time. BM did this as well so DH would keep paying child support until OSD20 was 22 per court order.

Getting child support reduced was easy peasy. The crazy BM however brought up that she needed car repairs on a car DH no longer owned or had responsibility for. Judge claimed original order was so vague that she could rule in her favor if it was pushed so we were encouraged to come to an agreement. Really? With this crazy person?

We spent a day in court at our cost of course cause she had legal aid just bouncing things back and forth. Nothing we offered was good enough. It had to be her way. We even offered to give her cash right then but that wasn't happening.

She finally tossed us an offer that we took and DH signed it. She basically really screwed herself and after her attorney telling her DH agreed to it and that it was signed and final she just blew a gasket. It got ugly. She said all kinds of things. Both attorneys were astounded. She got what she asked for but then went crazy.
One of the things were car repairs. She was required to get a repair list and DH was required to pay for repairs and get warranties. She was to get the list immediately.

For 6 long weeks we waited on this list. We knew the longer it took the more chances that things would be wrong with it. We finally threatened court again and she made the list appear.

Fast forward to Jan. 1. We asked for IRS form 8332 to be signed and given to us as DH claims kids as exemptions. She refused saying car needs repairs first. We said fine, give it to us. She refused. Said we had to provide her a car to drive. Nope, not in the paperwork. She threatened with calling her attorney. We told her to call. We did call ours and he wrote her attorney a letter stating her refusing to give up the car for the repairs. 2 days later she lets DH come get car. Makes it seem as if its her idea.

It takes 2 weeks to fix these problems. The list was just crazy stuff that the dealer included. We fixed everything that needed repairing and documented those items on the list that had no problems.

We take the car back to her and now we're done. So we thought. Once again we ask for tax paperwork. She says she isn't home. Today DH asks for it again. She refusing stating that he didn't do what he was supposed to do. She said a couple of things were still not fixed and it was his responsibility to get it done and done right.
A mechanic did the repairs as a warranty for parts and labor were needed. DH wasn't allowed to do it. He did it 'right' by having a licensed shop who does repairs to do it.
Now she refuses to sign the paperwork until he has it fixed. Our order states once he fixed and paid for listed repairs that we were relieved of all responsibility of the car.

This woman is driving me crazy. It was fixed with a warranty and now she needs to take it to that shop to fix it under warranty at no cost to her if what they fixed is actually what is wrong with it. If it is something that wasn't on her list then DH is not responsible for it. It had to be listed. She has had it for over 2 weeks now so there is no telling what she could have done to it in that time frame. That is why we had to follow a list in the first place.

She reads the freakin' order and just doesn't comprehend what it says. At this point I think she is just plain crazy and dealing with her is making me crazy as well.

She has this car back for over 2 weeks now and nothing is said. She texts him that "she was trying to find a way to talk to him about it". Really? How hard is it?

I personally don't think she has a leg to stand on because we fixed the car based on the list she provided to the court. All done and delivered. She hasn't said one word about anything that was on the list that was found to have no problem. She is even mad cause he didn't get an oil change. It wasn't on her freakin' list!!! However this is still costing us money cause each time I have to contact our attorney it cost us money. If he contacts her attorney then it costs even more money. I thought we were done but now I'm doubtful.

Gimme, gimme, gimme is all this woman thinks about. Does it ever stop I wonder? I have never met a person who feels like someone else owes her so much.

Anyway, here I am today, pissed off, ranting and raving and still in need of that tax form. I filed our taxes anyway just so she couldn't file with the kids behind our back. If she chooses to do so then it will take her months to get a refund and for our part we will just deal with the IRS. Don't know what else to do.
It seems like this is just one last thing that she is using to just keep him hanging on. A control issue. That's fine if it makes her feel better but it just keeps costing us.
She is really going to be pissed when she doesn't claim alimony received this year. I included that on the taxes as well. Not my job to tell her. She knows she gets it and should claim it so not our fault if she doesn't. We didn't claim on the last 2 years because the court gave us the wrong paperwork and we didn't know until this car thing started that alimony was given to her once the car was paid for. We thought it had been disallowed based on the paperwork we had. All previous car payments were considered alimony and if she doesn't stop her crazy train I am going to amend returns for those years and let her come up with that money.

On and the fun part to the tax crap....she is allowed to use the kids for EIC. DH only gets them for exemptions. All this crap cause she wants a tax exemption for $13000 of yearly income. Hell she probably can't even benefit from it.

Keep in mind also that through all this she has never once said she need anything for the kids. She has never even mentioned them. It is just always about her and what she needs or wants.

I'm sorry this is so long but for my first post I thought I should toss out details otherwise my ranting would make no sense.

Any thoughts, ideas, opinions, etc? Was I wrong to file taxes before getting the form in hand? I have always waited but I've read several post where people on here have never even sent them in and we always have.

Again sorry for the lengthy post. I'm a bit long winded.