So, I have been with my husband for three years now and we have a one year old daughter. When he and I first got together, I fell in love with his daughter. She and I became best friends and I even said to him, "Wow, I had no idea when I first met you, that I would love this little girl so much." We cooked together, cuddled, watched movies, etc. She even said to me once, "I am so glad my dad got with you." And, defended me from her mom. Would tell me "I love you." It was great! 

Then, I slowly started seeing her true colors.... I have two kids from previous marriage (boy and girl), he has two daughters. His oldest is perfection! I adore her. She even hates her half sister because of her nastiness. She curses at her older sister, throws dirty underwear with feces on it at her, hits her, threatens her. Her mom was once his oldest stepdaughter and her mom used to pull my oldest SD's hair and threaten her not to tell her dad, (my now husband). Youngest SD's mom is a teacher at her school, so little SD gets away with everything and says things like "I use my mom's emotions against the kids at my school." I can't get in trouble. She also says things like "I let my anger handle my problems." My kids are biracial, half African American and his youngest (trouble daughter) made a comment to my daughter saying that she basically has to be her slave because she is black. SD is Hispanic. And told my daughter she has ugly hair. 

Fast forward to Christmas two years ago, my husband found a diary she had where she wrote "I want my dad to die."  She said because he locks her in her room and makes her wash dishes. Her room doesn't even have a lock on the door AND she NEVER has to do dishes. In fact, she once did them and left them all dirty (she is obviously too young to know to do dishes) and I asked who did the dishes. Then I told her not to, because it's just a waste of water and soap, since she doesn't know how to yet. She then told her oldest sister that she did it on PURPOSE so that she wouldn't be asked to do dishes. No one EVER asks her to do dishes. I personally don't like any of the kids doing the dishes, because I am OCD lol with how I place everything and wash everything.

That same week, she had a conversation on the phone with her mom where she asked her mom "How's the fire going?" -Her mom practices SANTERIA, which is like voodoo/witchcraft. Her mom asked her not to say that too loud, because someone could hear her. This is all her oldest sister telling me the story, as she is the one who heard it. I have secretly recorded SD talking about how she goes to a place with her mom where they kill chickens and have the chicken blood all over their face and how she has a "guardian angel" that protects her and if she wants him to do something to someone, all she has to do is write the name on a piece of paper, light a candle and shake the maracas! She was six going on seven when I met her, she was eight when she said all this and is nine now - will be ten in a few months. In that recording she also talked about how her dad and I getting married was not going to happen and that her dad is a liar because he wouldn't give her my last name. When she asked her dad for my last name, he said my name and HIS last name. She replied "heck no, there are only three (hubby's last name) herself, her dad and her mom (she didn't say that in front of her dad, she would never - she is angelic in front of him). Not to mention he has an older daughter who has his last name too, plus our daughter together. But to her it's just her and her parents. She was so upset about him not giving her my last name. She has even threatened to do a ritual on him when she has gotten disciplined. She has also talked about how she goes to a cemetery with her mom to do stuff.

Last year I found a note hidden in between some folded sheets where she had a "To-Do" list she made where she listed to get my last name, a picture of me and a picture of my baby and to give to Mrs. (my husband's last name) meaning her mom. I can only imagine what they'd try to do with that!! 

She doesn't listen when I ask her to do things. She gives me attitude. She has ignored me when I say good morning. This is just all off the top off my head, I can go on and on! She hates that I have cameras in my baby girl's room and always "nonchalantly" covers the lens by placing like a bottle of lotion or something in front of it to block it. I had stopped saying things to my husband that she does, because he once said to me "everything she does bothers you." And one day, all on his own, he saw her block the camera and asked me why she does that and I replied I don't know. But feel that had I brought it to his attention, he would have taken it as if I'm complaining about her. So, I have just been keeping things to myself and my resentment has grown and when she comes over I am anxious just knowing she's coming over, even if it's a week ahead! I'm always all eyes, on point, making sure she's not doing anything to hurt my baby. She is always sweet in front of her dad and when he's not around, is MEAN! She often gets mad when the baby touches her things and immediately gets angry, but looks from the corner of her eyes, and when she sees I am watching her, she changes from anger, to niceness. I DO NOT TRUST HER. 

Am I overreacting? I can really go on and on about different things she does. Ultimately, I just feel so uncomfortable when she is here. I know she is just a kid, but I can't help myself! When his oldest comes over I am happy and love having her. But this one is like the DEVIL! Calculated. And acts so innocent with her dad.