And the frustration continues
Nobody ever tells me sh!t, yet I'm supposed to just roll with the punches. I am off today. Yes, I am sitting in the living room watching a scary movie. It is 2:30. The dishes are washed and SD is fed. SD walks in dressed and asks, "did my dad talk to you?". I say no. "I have my therapy appointment at 3," she says. Oh?
I call DH, slightly annoyed. "She has an appointment in 30 minutes and you couldn't tell me?". He says "I'm busy I'm sorry. I can come get her right now". I tell him that I can take her but he needs to tell me these things as soon as he knows because I will remember!
He doesn't give me an address. SD doesn't have the address. I tell her to call BM. I should've just called DH back because SD told BM that DH "can't take her". Anyway, I told SD that I am not upset with her but it is frustrating that no one communicates this expectation to me. I don't care that DH is busy. It is his visitation time so HIS responsibility to make sure that SD is getting there!
I also told SD that she needs to tell me these things herself instead of relying on her dad. If she knew I was supposed to take her, she needs to grow some lady balls and ASK or TELL me that is what's going on. Minor vent, don't worry. I am keeping composure.
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This right here is why I
This right here is why I stopped giving rides. No one told me shit and I was done asking them to be considerate of my time. Kids who can't ask for rides in a timely manner take the shoelace express!
I hope you have a different outcome, but if you keep giving her rides last minute, they will keep being inconsiderate.
I have a feeling that's what
I have a feeling that's what's going on but I told her that she needs to tell ME more than 30 minutes ahead even if she thinks DH talked to me. He uses the excuse that he has so much going on, which is true, but I am a person, too. It was 5 minutes away so I'm not too upset but still annoyed.
She has been talking to me less and less because I don't baby her and ask her questions just to get 1 or 2 word answers.
Five minutes by car means 15
Five minutes by car means 15-20 minutes by foot? Yeah, the rides were never far for me, either, so that meant they could damn well walk!
You know princess can't walk!
You know princess can't walk! Especially in summer! But really, I wouldn't want my own kid walking. It isn't the worst part of town but a lot of homeless. Plus, the kid is wearing a SWEATER! Smh.
Your husband said that he
Your husband said that he could take her, why didn't you just let him?
"Guess you better check with
"Guess you better check with your dad about how you're going to get there!"
This kind of nonsense is
This kind of nonsense is exactly why I quit giving rides.
DH would conveniently 'forget' that he'd told BM that he'd pick up the skids from school, then call me with 15-minutes notice from a meeting that went long and ask me to drop everything and go do it.
Or, he'd ask me in the morning...I'd say fine...and if I wasn't there the second the school bell rang I'd start getting texts from him, YSD, and BM. Are you getting her?!?! Are you on the way?!?! How many minutes away are you??!!
It was absurd. As a kid, I was told early and often that I was not to interrupt and that my parents' time was far more scheduled and valuable than mine...so if they weren't there the second school got out, I was to wait, talk to friends, do homework, read a book. (Again...we're talking high school, here....not elementary).
I explained to DH that if I got there before school got out, I waited for 5 minutes or so before the bell rang and then at least 15-20 minutes in a long car line. For what? So YSD can see my car immediately and get in it and wait 15-20 minutes in a long car line with me? If I left the house 5 minutes after school got out, then I drove right through, picked YSD up...and we still got home at the same time. Why should I spend 30-40 minutes on an errand that could be accomplised in 10-15 minutes if I timed it right.
DH didn't agree with this philosophy so I just said...OK. No more rides from me. End of discussion.