not feeling too positively about this first night that ss is with us. We had an event with my dd10 tonight so I rushed home from work and had 15 min to change, pee, eat, and go. The house was chaos. DS, SS, and ds's friend were all downstairs where I just told dh over the weekend that I did not want the kids going down there unless invited or supervised. In fact I told him 2 or 3 different times-we have a pretty big house and I like to have some space to the adults. So there they all are-running around, ss is trying to play video games on the tv down there-which again I told dh I didnt want that. He's upstairs doing god knows what. I said something to him about it and he said, "Yeah, I didnt want them down there either and then said something to the effect that I ought to tell my ds to get upstairs and he'd tell ss". IDK-it just pissed me off. Hes going to wait til I get home to say something? And he's going to stop parenting the other kids because ss is here? I was a little upset that there was nothing to eat. Found out later that they all had pizza. Dh evidently saved me some but put it away so I had no idea that there was something made, then he acted surprised that I didnt eat. I had to sit in the car and wait on him and ss for 5 minutes-dd was then 5 minutes late. So time I could have been having a bite to eat-me and all the other kids are loaded in the car waiting on these two that have been home for hours. GRRRRR.

Then dh keeps talking about keeping ss home tomorrow. He is disenrolled from his old school-the new school knows ss is coming-dh has filled out transfer papers-but first he said he wanted to keep him home for a day. WTF? You are trying to tell this kid how important school is, it's a priority, blah, blah and then you are going to keep him home for no particiular reason. Then tonight he tells me that they might not even let him enroll ss tomorrow. I told him, "i think they will", "I dont think it will be a problem" "I think they can fax those papers to his new school"-he ignores it all and says they have to figure out what classes he is in. Yes, I agree-however this is not a large school-they are in 8th grade-there are no electives, really not tons of options for classes-might take um, 5 minutes? I just feel like he is already trying to "spoil" him. I think the issue here is he does not randomly keep the other kids home for any reason (not that they would want to they enjoy school) and he knows I dont randomly keep them home-if he asked if he should keep them home I would say no and that be that and he would trust my decision, but because it's ss-well he's going to do what he wants.

Not major issues, but I am just left feeling disrespected. One of the few things I stressed over the weekend (kids not downstairs-which normally they dont hang out down there alot-but for whatever reason when ss is here-theyve been going down there), dh not letting me know there was supper, making me wait on him and ss, and then acting as if ss was going to have to stay home tomorrow despite me giving my opinion on that not being a good idea-it's like I just feel totally not listened to.