Slightly annoyed
So my BS 13.5 has been a part of Army cadets for 2 years now. I'm very proud of this child of mine. He went from having no confidence, being afraid to take risks, to this whole different person... in school..in the community. Since he was 3 years old he said he wanted to be in the army. His father (my ex) and I both thought it was a passing fancy..but alas it wasn't...
My DH (current one) thinks that cadets is stupid. Why would I want my child to go to war? Why would I support this? etc etc... moronic things..
So the other day after sending my son off on a flight to boot camp (where he will be for the next 3 weeks)... my DH says, "So what does his dad think about this?"... I responded "His father and I are very very proud of him. He's taken an interest in something, he takes it seriously, he's starting to help out in the community, he's learning great life skills, his confidence level has risen, and he's made some great friendships, what is there not to be proud of"... So DH doesn't really say anything...which made me mad..because I can't figure out why he can't agree with anything I say when it's so blatantly obvious.. (him and BM do not support the Cadet Corps - so this also bugs me that they are 'in it' together)... So I lashed out at him and said "Look, I'm really proud of my kid. What would you prefer my BS13 do? Sit on his ass eating bonbons and watching Disney movies all day?"...
He wasn't impressed...but I don't care... this is what his child does ALL DAY LONG. He is not involved in anything... and it shows! I hate when people are so judgmental especially when they shouldn't be! Frig..sorry I just had to get that off my chest because it's sooo annoying...
I hate to do this..and I shouldn't but I'm feeling my competitive mother thing happening here... when I compare both children at the same ages the differences are astounding!
My Son at 8.5
-didn't pee his pants
-didn't wet the bed
-played hockey
-Downhill skied, snowboarded
-rode his bike
-good health, energetic
His Son at 8.5
-Pee's pants
-Pee's bed
-Doesn't wipe his bum
-Does nothing extra
-Just learned to ride a bike this summer (thanks to me the evil sm)
-Overweight, no energy
So.... I HATE HATE HATE when DH judges my son ... he should really start working on his own!
ahhhhh feeling a little better now.
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When ss is older you should
When ss is older you should encourage him to do the same thing. Wouldn't that be funny if his son joined...and loved it! Ha! But yeah, I think he's jealous of how well your son turned out and how his son is turning out. Another suggestion, rather than compare the two, can you help ss find something for him to be involved with? Something active. You got him to learn to ride a bike so maybe you can help him find a sport or activity and encourage him to keep with it, even if it's only when he's with you guys. I think that could help the boy's self esteem and help his parents see him in a better light.
Sorry old Dart...I've beat
Sorry old Dart...I've beat bed wetting over the head here...I think many of us have... I know it's not a choice...it's other things surrounding the Bed Wetting that get to me.
I've read all about it... We've been to doctors... the actual bed wetting itself is not the problem.
Everyone else... I have enrolled this child in so many different things... so many things...
-1- Karate - too hard, so mom pulled him out.. I was out $200
-2- Skiing - Too cold, Mom and DH pulled him out I was out $375
-3- Swimming - Too Scawry, Mom pulled him out... I was not out this time...as DH actually paid for it.
-4- Soccer - Too hard, only wanted to be a goalie..again this was not my expense.
-5- Beavers - YAY I put him in...he's still in and going to scouts.. and I really like the Boy Scout program... but he's just graduated from Beavers to Scouts and I'm wondering if maybe he'll quit... beavers was mostly crafts and games... Scouts is a bit more.. I'm keeping my fingers crossed he'll stay.. it doesn't start until September..
So I have been trying...and I think you're right somewhat that DH feels it's a direct reflection of his parenting skills... and TX Mommy... funny thing is... SS told my son he wants to join... it's probably just to get on my BS good side (as they fight/argue alot like regular brothers).. but it would be hilarious if he did join.. I would have sooo many things to say to DH if he did.