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Submitted by hatemyhusband on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:02pm

I feel like his daughter is more a tool to use against me. If he didn't have kids, then it would be anything he could use against me. An example, I made dinner. He left like it was disgusting. Then he comes back. He went to his friends house for dinner. He said his friends wife made the " best gravy". Meaning our word for spaghetti sauce and what you put in it-meatballs etc. this was a while ago. When I ran into her I casually chit chatted about her
"Gravy" recipe. Pretty typical. Onion. Garlic. Salt. Pepper. Oregano. Basil. Wine. Canned tomotoes. Of course it's good.......but it's the typical recipe. Not different from mine. My recipe gets no acknowledgement.no compliments. An example how everyone else gets understanding and acknowledged. And I get nothing. And I'm processing all this...figuring out what I wanna do. While I'm processing no sex for sure. He's disgusting to me.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:11pm

Your DH left your dinner table and went and ate a friends, then came back and raved about how good their food was??? Or was this your skid?

If this was your DH? Then enough said right there... that I can't tell if this was a petulant child acting like this or a grown ass man. I can only begin to imagine how horribly disrespectful this man must treat you on a daily basis if he did something like this Sad

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Submitted by hereiam on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:12pm

He sounds like an ass and I wouldn't be cooking for him ever again. I hope his friends enjoy having another mouth to feed.

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Submitted by hatemyhusband on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:17pm

This was my H. And yes i had dinner that day. No skid that day. Yeah.....that's why my name is hatemyhusband, he is so disrespectful. And yes....he had dinner there once a couple months ago. She isn't anxious to regularly cook for an additional guest/grown man.

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Submitted by hatemyhusband on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:22pm

II am processing all this. I've been lurking a while. I knew I would get the negative comments....but it's hard when you're trying to process this and I feel like dig myself out of a deep hole. Yeah there is something wrong with me honestly to get to this place. But it's a setback to hear it. It's ok, just honest I guess. Will put up more stuff. Appreciate the support.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:23pm

Sweetie there is nothing wrong with YOU! It is not YOUR fault that your H disrespects you.

The only fault that you have in this is that you allow it to continue, but hey, MOST of us are here because we allow our SO/DH/FH to do things that drive us nutso and thus we need a place to vent.

you need to get yourself to a stronger place. Pull yourself up by the bootstraps and then kick him in the ass with those suckers!

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Submitted by loveandfitness on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:25pm

This is horrible! Please tell me he has at least one redeeming quality that keeps you with him?

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Submitted by hereiam on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:29pm

What we want, is to support you; for you to have some self respect and not take being treated this way. To help you realize that you don't deserve that kind of treatment.

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Submitted by hatemyhusband on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:38pm

Thanks. I thought for a long time he just wanted to put me down any way he could. I thought my cooking was good. So I deliberately had people over to dinner or I sent food to people.... i looked for reasons.like some one had a baby, etc. and I got complimented. Genuine compliments not polite ones. so I know he's just looking to put me down. And of course, even if it wasn't good, he should have been polite and grateful.

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Submitted by hereiam on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 2:41pm

He sounds like an emotional abuser.

He is purposely trying to steal your self confidence so you will think you can't do any better. Don't fall for it.

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Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 3:01pm

Life is too short to be miserable with a mean man. Time to move on if you really hate him.

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Submitted by Totalybogus on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 3:19pm

A friend of mine had a problem with her husband not showing up for dinner and then coming home drunk in the middle of the night, waking her up, and telling her he wants something to eat.

She got up and took out a frozen fish, threw it at him, and told him to cook it his damn self...LOL!