I'm sorry.

I'm sorry about your uncle and I'm sorry that your husband cannot find it in himself to be there for you.

How many let downs will you have with him? As many as you allow. You should tell him to spend the weekend packing, because that's where you're sending him when you get home.

So sad for your loss and that you do not have the support from the man you love during this difficult time. Maybe you can spend the 8 hour drive deciding what you want and deserve in a relationship, not how many let downs you will have with him. Life is very short do not settle for less than you want in a relationship.
Sending you HUGS!

My sympathy for your loss.

I really want to smack your husband in the back of the head. If one of HIS family members passed away would he still go to the bloody concert?? Sure, it is an event that will (MAYBE) occur once. But death? And to basically ignore the death of your spouse's family member and withhold support? Yes, I want to smack him.

"...how many let downs will I have with him..."

Honey... as many as you will tolerate. Only YOU will know which let down is the final straw. {{{hugs}}}

My deepest sympathy for your loss. Please drive safely - eight hours is a long time to concentrate and grief will make it harder. You are in my thoughts

I am also sorry to hear you are not getting the support you need and deserve
I would be very concerned by this pattern. What if something happens to you? You won't have any suppprt from this man who is probably your next of kin. It's a very dangerous situation

Death trumps everything. There will always be another skid event.

Sending you hugs and condolences HappyCamper.... my sympathies to your whole family,

Now DH has never met this uncle, you can not blame him for not feeling anything Hon, some people just do not deal with funerals that well and I'm one off them. I will never attend a funeral if it was not my Mum or Dad and son... I did not attend my Grans funeral or any of the aunts and uncles or cousins... I just can't.... I wonder if I will attend the In-laws funeral one day.... and to meet the family, well IMO funeral is not the place..
but this is just me, maybe your husband feels the same way as me...

then BIL on SO's side, son is getting married next year, we are invited and I already declined, I'm sorry but this is not my family, I'm not driving the miles and miles and spending money on people I do not know and I've met them before... SO is not happy cause he feels if you are in a relationship you do not go alone to functions, I told him this is not a function, I know you lot... it's not the way I operate, so go and have a ball (anyhoo the In-laws are going with him and I don't want to sit in a car with them for 8 hours one way)

Sorry to hear about your Uncle. {HUGS}

Like I said yesterday, my heart aches for you. Your hubby doesn't deserve you. I don't know if I would ever return home after his non-support.

I could understand his reluctance to not go to if the skid activity was a once in a lifetime event - like a graduation. But, it's a high school band performance. It's band and she's part of the band. Even if she has a solo, it's still a high school band performance.

In my world spouses attend the significant events in the spouse's life unless there is a really good reason not to. I've attended funerals for my spouse and he's attended funerals for me. He or I might have not known the deceased, but we knew the funeral was important to our spouse so we attended.

Stop at the divorce attorney on your way back into town

Yeah, that would push me over the edge.

You deserve better than this. Believe that and act upon it.

Sorry for your loss. And I do agree with everyone else. He is not a good man.