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Skids and arguments

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Submitted by Happycamper on Thu, 03/04/2021 - 9:24am

I've got to know. Does anyone else have a DH where no matter what goes on it is said if it's something to do with the skids it's an argument??? I'm so over it. The skids are 18 and 21. They never tell us anything in advance. It's always like the day before. Of course DH wants to drop everything to do what they have going. I'm an organized person. I just say they know for months but wait until the day before and we have to cancel what we had planned. DH says you can't expect an 18 year old to be organized enough to give you advanced notice. Uhhhh yes you can!!!!!! Now it's a fight.

Covid and skids

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Submitted by Happycamper on Tue, 12/15/2020 - 5:58am

Is anyone having issues with Covid and skids? What I'm asking is, my skids are older--18 and 21. Neither one of them or their mom take it seriously. They go to public crowd events and don't wear masks. DH still brings them over twice a week for dinner. This past weekend there was a huge thing that one of them did with hundreds of people. He was wanting to have them over today and I asked that could he at least wait a week to make sure she isn't sick or got exposed. You could tell I took the wind out of his sails. I've got health issues and I'm staying home and out of harms way.

Sd21 still causing issues

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Submitted by Happycamper on Thu, 10/15/2020 - 9:40pm

This isn't anything new but it's starting up again. SD will be turning 21 in a few months. She has dad snowballed. He thinks she's an angel. She still lives with mom. Doesn't work. Hates to work actually and hates school. She hates moms boyfriend. She hates a lot of things. DH has dinner dates with her weekly because she misses daddy. He finally told me that for the past couple of weeks he's been having to talk her through the divorce. She apparently still isn't over it and has a thousand questions for him.

Husband so different around skids

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Submitted by Happycamper on Sun, 08/02/2020 - 9:28am

Hi all! I've posted before so I won't go back to my history. You can look at my blogs if you like. I want to know if any of you are dealing with what I deal with. My skids are 17 and 20. The 20 year old is babies and enabled and coddled. She to this day says she's not over the divorce that was 8 years ago. Well the 2 skids decided to spend the weekend with us. They live right up the road. My DH acts so differently around them. When we are alone he's always affectionate and hugs on me and holds my hand. We always snuggle on the couch together.

8 years later and still dealing...

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Submitted by Happycamper on Fri, 07/17/2020 - 9:05am

Hi all! For of all, thank you for letting me vent! It's been awhile, but I have absolutely NO ONE to talk to about these issues. I know that many of you are in the same boat or have been. My DH left his ex 8 years ago. We have been married for 6. We both have our own set of kiddos. His are 17 and 20. I have always had issues with the 20 year old. She is a mini wife and always has been. Luckily, SD20 lives with the ex right up the road. I worry that at some point she will move in. I know that will be the end of any happiness I have left. She is sooooo lazy. She dropped out of school.

It never ends with the skids

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Submitted by Happycamper on Wed, 03/04/2020 - 7:01am

First of all, I want to say that since we don't get the skids EOW, DH and I are getting along SO much better! He takes them to dinner the same day every week. They are invited over but are always too busy. Well all of a sudden, DH gets a call from SD20. She has to come over because she is distraught missing her daddy. If you've followed me in the past, this girl treats me differently when he's not around, he things she's a perfect angel, she has the mini wife problem going, no job, etc. She only takes 2 classes and sits on her butt.

Here I am venting again...emotional baggage

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Submitted by Happycamper on Wed, 11/20/2019 - 6:57am

I'm just wondering if anyone feels the same way as me as a second wife or if this is normal. I've posted A LOT about stuff going on with DH and with skids. I've posted I can't say a word about skids without an argument. That still rings true. DH brought up something last night and I didn't agree with it. I just spoke my peace. Basically SD19 quit her job. She doesn't work much anyway but she just doesn't want to work. I just feel at that age, she should be doing something. Anyway, I wasn't mean.

Christmas apart

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Submitted by Happycamper on Mon, 11/11/2019 - 8:30am

Does anyone do Christmas apart from their spouse? I'm seriously thinking of suggesting this to my husband this year. We live in the same city with his entire family and his kids. He gets to see them whenever he wants. My family along with my kids live in other states. I missed Christmas with them for years until I finally said this makes me so sad. We need to compromise and do Xmas every other year with that family. Still do Xmas with the kids it just may not Xmas morning. Heck when we are here we don't see his kids Xmas morning anyway because they do stuff with BMs family.

How do you cope?

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Submitted by Happycamper on Sat, 10/26/2019 - 8:39pm

I'm here to vent and ask how to cope with a situation. First of all, please don't say talk to DH. I haven't posted in awhile, but if you've ready anything that I've posted, you would know there is no talking to DH about the skids. He thinks that they are perfect and do no wrong. In a sense he's a Disney dad as he won't say anything to them that might hurt their feelings. So 19sd dropped out of college and wanted to come home. DH told her if she came back she would have to get a job. She does go to tech school like two days a week and lives with BM.

Father Day/Ex /Financial ties

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Submitted by Happycamper on Sun, 06/16/2019 - 8:16pm

I get so bummed about my DH still having financial ties with his ex but not me! Everything at our house is in my name. I am totally stretched as both cars, house, all utilities, everything is in my name. I have had to do this because BM and DH didn’t pay their bills. He told me that she would always be behind and stuff when they were married and it supposedly drove him crazy. I found out after we were married that they had declared bankruptcy years ago together. Fast forward to now..BM refuses to refinance the house and get DH’s name off of it.

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