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Submitted by hanneyh1 on Sat, 07/21/2012 - 9:32am

So I know that as a 5 year old, my SD is going through a transitional stage from early childhood into middle childhood where she is struggling with independence vs. toddlerhood and wanting to cuddle and be treated like a baby, but last night she asked my DH to cuddle with her while she was going to the bathroom. I told her that that was never ok. I didn't do it mean or anything but we've been working on dad not seeing her naked for the last year or so, and we're working on closing the bedroom door when she's changing and the like. But even being in an in between stage, I thought that question was very disturbing.

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Submitted by phoenix410 on Sat, 07/21/2012 - 9:44am

I would say maybe she is craving his attention and isn't sure how to go about getting it. I think when weird questions like that come up, it might be best if the 'no' came from your DH, but I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your SD. My stepkids would accuse me of yelling at them, or making up some other kind of bull.

I know that my SD10 was sleeping in DH's bed until a few months before we got married... I put my foot down and said that was not going to happen when that was my bed. But she's an attention-addict, always hanging on him, following him around, and literally at his elbow every second.

I have told my DH to make sure he's spending one-on-one time with his kids to fill that need for them. It usually helps.

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Submitted by hanneyh1 on Sat, 07/21/2012 - 10:05am

oh, he did say no to that. Thank god. But afterwards, I told her that that was not ok to even ask. And at bedtime I reiterated that and said that she is never to ask a question like that again since she knows that dad can't see her naked anymore. Just threw me through a loop when she asked it. I was so shocked. But he was playing with her a lot last evening. She's just very demanding of attention and now that she has twin newborn sisters at her BM's house, it's even more different when she goes from house to house.

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Submitted by hanneyh1 on Sat, 07/21/2012 - 10:32am

I don't think she knows either LOL! I wonder if she did it just for the shock value.... she is quite the drama queen (which she gets from her BM).

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Submitted by RainbowsAndDaisies on Sat, 07/21/2012 - 11:02am

There are some good books out there for her age group about privacy and private parts, you might want to check some out to read at bed time.

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Submitted by hanneyh1 on Sat, 07/21/2012 - 8:48pm

she knows about the private parts, but the privacy thing is still hard to grasp. I'll see if a story can help.... I'm looking into stories with morals to them to help her with other things as well. Like brushing her teeth properly without having to be watched all the time.