DD, DS and the trip for their Dad..the VI...and my involvement
So..my two kids, DD and DS have wanted to take their dad for a small hiking trip since last year. Enter covid...and yea that didn't happen...till now.
Father's Day and the Village Idiot's birthday is coming up and they planned a 2 day hiking trip paid for on their own.
DS went to book the cabin that DD found and his credit card kept being denied. MMMkkk.....DS is calling his bank but meanwhile cabins that are pet friendly are being snatched up at a fast pace and they were afraid they would lose the cabin.
Enter..ME.......Now I have 0..and I mean 0 love for the VI. he is an abusive narcisst and quite fankly I wouldn't p*ss on him if he were on fire...but he is my kids dad. My kids on the other hand I would walk through fire for them....and yep I walked through fire.
After the 2nd decline and DS being on hold with his bank(they, DS andthe bank figured out the problem about 30 minutes later)...I told DD call the cabin place and we will work it out. I gave DD my credit and we talked to the nice cabin lady and I paid for the cabin with my card. (if my card get declined we got some serious issues..lol). My card goes through....cabin is secured. Kids will bring me cash for the charge today and all is well.
This is how it should be...while I detest the VI...I certainly do not want to punish him by using my kids. Just another day in divorce land.
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You're a good mom. This is an
You're a good mom. This is an example of loving your kids more than you hate your ex.
You are definitely a good mom
You are definitely a good mom. I would do the same because at the end of the day it's for the kids
Good for you
modeling being a sane grown up to your kids
You're a good mom for doing
You're a good mom for doing this. The kids had the cash; this was just a technical issue. It happens, and it's great when humans can bend on their boundaries or put aside differences to make life easier for those they care about. Not everything has to be a struggle all the time.
Not quite the same, but FIL stepped in last month and paid for our hotel for our first (and only) family trip with the boys because our cash was tied up in the house. Similar situation: things were booking quickly and wasn't sure it would still be available by the time we had cash in hand. We paid him back immediately, and I'll be forever grateful for his help.
I've done similar for family. They're having credit card issues (like card number was stolen or card got lost) or got hit back-to-back with expenses and needed an extra week. I'd rather pay it for them then have them have to get a payday loan or jump through a million hoops. It's never for more than I can afford, so I don't feel used. Every time it has happened, folks have been super grateful.