Just an update
My fvpo was made permanent for a yr. My kids are good, I am doing good. My ex is in total melt down. She is living with a friend and posting all over social media how i am a bastard and an a$$hole. She is saying horrible things about my kids and how they destroyed her life. She was arrested for breaking into my house and vandalizing it. She didn't do much damage before the police got there but since i have the fvpo she was arrested for violating that also. That cost her her job so now she is unemployed. Someone tried to open a credit card in my name but I have my credit frozen so that was squashed. She tried to withdrawl money from my bank account but the bank turned her away and notified me. She has lost her mind. Watching this from afar makes me realize she was the damaged one and not me. She was really good at gaslighting me to make me think I was the lucky one to be with her. Tonight I am taking a co worker to dinner, she is recently divorced and she was bummed because today was her anniversary. My goal is not to date her but to make today brighter for her.
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I feel bad for her kids.
I feel bad for her kids. Trust me have a crazy person for a parent is not easy on them.
Damn, that is scary. Just a
Damn, that is scary. Just a heads up, coming from someone who has gone through having a totally screwy person in their life: It's a salve for people like us to move on and make someone else's day brighter. Be sure you focus on you and take an honest look at why you ended up with someone like your ex before you put energy and focus into helping others.
I'm serious when I say that
I'm serious when I say that you need to be very aware of your surroundings. She's likely following you and watching.
I'm sorry she's an utter loon and saying hateful things. She didn't get what she wanted so you have to pay.
Take care of your kids and yourself. It's sweet to help your coworker. We have a client that s divorcing a nut ball so I talk with him on occasion to see how he is doing. Like you, not trying to date him but just be a friend.
Hugs.
gunner, I am glad you got out
gunner, I am glad you got out and away. Keep doing what you are doing and stay strong. her current actions prove not only is she crazy but she absolutely was using you and your finances.
Thank you, gunner, I've
Thank you, gunner, I've thought about you.
Man, you better thank your
Man, you better thank your lucky stars that you never had a child with that nutter.
Thanks for the update Gunner.
Thanks for the update Gunner. Relieved for you & your kids, sad for nutty ex's kids too, poor things! I've prayed for you all. Good job doing the difficult but necessary measures to separate & protect yourself and your kids (and heck, even your 1st ex-wife, who you'd been very amicable with) from the out-of-control recent ex. Your posts (and I've read them all!) revealed the best & worst responses from StepTalk and I am glad you stuck around and worked through it anyway. Keep on taking the next right actions and you'll be fine. Hope your dinner is mutually enjoyable, glad you're doing something positive.
Good for you Gunner, thus now
Good for you Gunner, thus now you listen to us ladies.... we told you you can do better...
but before jumping into a new relationship, be single for a year or two, your kids needs to get over this, if you start dating immediately they will think the new SM is like the old crazy one and that's not fair towards any new potential woman in your life...
Also from day one, do not financially support a new woman, if she can't make it on her own you are out, no moving in together nothing... make sure it's not another gold digging crazy woman
I have been wondering about
I have been wondering about you and hoping that you and the kids have been well