These are my thoughts at 5AM this morning. Dear husband, I have been with you for 12 yrs. now. It was hard not to notice that in the beginning the father's day cards came from my children that were adults when I met you. Your's did pick up the phone and call. When my children had young one's then you received cards from grandkids who did not know you were a step grandpa and had no idea their bio grandpa ever existed because he died when his children were young. I saw your first card arrive after I pointed out to your children that the it was my family members who sent you cards on this day not them. Was I over-stepping boundries to point it out? probably,may even have contributed to some of the dislike toward me. That's alright. They were never going to like me anyways once I insisted our financial security take priority over theirs. A few years back when we were tetering on the brink of divorce and you were screaming those famous words "You hate my children" did you ever realize that the luxury of living in a paid off house, taking trips over-seas,and having the money to pay the bills every month was totaly due to that 2 letter word "NO" Did you notice that the 1 daughter that caused you the most grief, who's children we had to take in , is the one who you are now most proud of. She changed her life when I stood in court and said to give her child back, make her take responsibility, and if her children ever were removed from her home again then they would not return to us unless she signed adoption papers. The word "NO" may create bad feelings but it does have a profound affect.