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My dd called soon to be ex dh and said she missed him and asked if she could see him. I didn't know she called him. She has really taken our seperation hard. She adores dh. Dh called me and asked if the girls could spend the night so I took them over to our old home Friday night. I was hoping we could talk out some of our differenes but his new live in girlfriend answered the door. He moved his girlfriend into our home!! Dds were shocked. Her son has oldest dds room and repainted it blue. She wasn't ready for that.

It's offical

Dh and i are kaput. He left and never really came back. He'd come by to talk but he never stayed the night. I can't afford the house note on my own so my girls and i moved into a rental this weekend. We are upside down on the house so he can have it. There isn't much to split really. I took everything house wise. He can have the house. My girls are adjusting well. They know this is the last season of cheer/gym, i just can't afford it now that we are on our own. I filed for divorce last month. I'm really sad about this. I know where I went wrong.

DH left me

I think I am feeling relieved but I miss the heck out of him right now. I'm not sure what the last straw was but bm enrolled ss in bowling league for Saturday league play with Wednesday night practices ( where coaches teach you how to bowl and correct your bowling, for a fee) So dh has been taking ss on our time and bm on her time. This is the second activity ss has. He has boy scouts on Mondays and camp out are weekends when they do them. They do an activity once a month. My girls have tumbling and 1 has gymnastics and the other had rec cheer leading.

Dh is unhappy

He asked me for some time last week and I thought we would go out and have fun. Instead he sent the kids to his parents house and he sat me down for a talk. He said he doesn't want to keep going down this path of us being gone all the time. He feels disconnected, lonely and angry. He said hes angry at me for being gone all the time and mad at my girls for being the reason we are gone all the time. I tried to explain he is the reason we changed activities and he said it doesn't matter and that what is happening now is the problem.

Sorry Charlie

Dh has been pitching a man size fit all week. Due to my kids activities and schedule changes we are gone Tuesday - Friday and spend most of Saturday at their activities or fundraising for their activities. The only night we are home is Monday so I cook a proper dinner, it's not my fault that is boy scout night and dh doesn't get home till after 8. Scouts is 7 to 8 and he has to go pick ss up from bms after work so he has no time to eat at home and dh loves home cooked food. Since he complained about the crockpot meals I stopped making them.

No school supplies

School starts tomorrow so i have spent the last 2 weeks making sure my girls are ready with MY money. I work full time. Dh had never bought school supplies for ss because that is covered by child support. Dh went to take ss home this afternoon and bm wasn't home. He called her and she said she was at the hospital with a friend and wouldn't be home tonight. He should get ss to school tomoorw. Dh asked if he should use the hide away key to go in and get school supplies and his back to school outfit. Bm said no and that she didnt buy him anything.

Dh is already complaining

We're just getting started with my girls doing different activities. I allowed one to do cheer leading and one to do gymnastics. One is rec and one is private and they are on different nights. Oldest dd is doing cheer leading and she has practice Tuesday and Thursdays with games on Saturday. Ydd has gymnastics on Monday and Wednesday and both have tumbling classes on Friday nights. My dd's are thrilled and I am excited for them. I totally get why you guys said to let them do what they want. The cost minus tumbling classes will equal out to what we were spending on karate.

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Got some answers

Dh talked to his mom and his stepdad about his bonus. His mom is the one who decided that "the family" needed to make sure that bm had reliable transportation. The truck is actually in the company's name and bm works part time entering quotes from home so she is a part time employee. Stepdad decided that dhs bonus should buy the company truck and dh would forgo his bonus. Dh has tried and tried to talk to his parents but they won't budge. Dh used the online calculator to see if child support could be lowered but it looks like it would go up some.

Dh paid for bms new truck! I am infuriated!!

So bm after pleading broke and unable to afford a shirt for her kid shows up driving a brand new truck. I suspected that dhs parents had something to do with it but I didn't expect to find out that dh's dad (stepdad) would give bm dh's work bonus!!! Today is bonus day at dhs work and dh didn't have an envelope and there was no extra deposit in our account. Dh called his dad to ask what was going on and his dad told him his bonus this yr was knowing his kid had safe and reliable transportation!! I can't f@cking believe they did this!

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Boyscout update

I have posted the bad so it's time to post the good. SS had a boy scout award ceremony yesterday and we all went. Dhs dad (stepdad), his momma and bm came to. Dhs dad came in full uniform. That was ummmmmm funny!! SS got 2 merit badges that he earned and he was really beaming. Dh tried to get pictures but bm kept getting in the way and he had to settle for pictures afterwards. I was ticked but let it go that bm, fil and mil all took a picture with ss together. Whatever. She is doing everything she can to get in good with them.

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