I have been married to my husband for 3 years. I came into the marriage with a daughter and a son and he came with 2 daughters.
What I didn't know (but should have) was that the ex-wife was coming too! :jawdrop: His family and I had a decent relationship until the ex-wife got in touch with them and worked her magic. Her talent is manipulation. And she is VERY talented. She was able to twist things around so that my husbands mother and sister started up a relationship with her again. The same woman who cheated on him twice and left him but not after she tried to sneak out of the state with his 2 children. She has told them all sorts of untrue things. The bad part? they believed her! What?? They believed a woman who they know as a master manipulator, liar, and adulteress? But they did. She is now at their house on Christmas, Easter and other random times. my husband can no longer go to his mother's house without calling first. Needless to say I really have no use for the Mom and Sister if this is how they are going to treat my husband.
We live in a very small town and this lady has tried to trash me everywhere. She tries to do it at the schools but I am so involved it doesn't work. We have joint custody with her but have tie breaking privileges and residency for school and doctors offices. Every school year it's the same battle with the paperwork. Shew wants to fill out the paperwork as if these things weren't in the divorce decree. We have to show the divorce decree to the schools and get it straightened out. But not without a lot of back and forth from her resisting. The worst part is that I was really having an easy time with the girls until now. She has started calling me a stupid bitch and yelling at them that I am not heir mother and they shouldn't be doing what I say. She doesn't make it to school conferences and doesn't work with the kids on their homework. This summer instead of giving the girls to us when she doesn't want them (which has been all of her scheduled time)she has been giving them to my husbands mother. So we used to get them all the time and now just have them our half. The girls have developed such an attitude because of what she's saying to them that I am thinking I just stop being a Mom to them.
My husband hates this idea but really I don't want anymore drama. I know she's threatened because she doesn't do the things with them that a mother should and I am. Still it doesn't make it any easier. I have 2 of my own. One with Autism and the other was adopted as a toddler and has Reactive Attachment Disorder from not being held or loved as a baby. So I don't have a lack of things to keep my occupied at all!

My husband is really mad but I am so over all the drama. Is it wrong to back off from his girls, their attitude and see if it puts some space between Bio Mom and her drama?