On Halloween my step-daughter calls crying because her husband (separated) was supposed to give her gas money to take their kids trick or treating and at the last minute he says he is broke (of course, he is always broke). So my husband tells me this and stupid ass me feels sorry for the grand kids so I hand him $25.00 to go give her. He has no money because he doesn't work!! He hasn't had a job in 2 years and I have supported him the whole way because he is applying for disability.
Anyway, after he left her he called me to see if I needed anything from the store. I asked him "Did SD say anything?" He says she said thank you. I then pushed it further by asking if she said to thank me? He said she did but it sounded like a lie. Then he said how my step-granddaughter wanted to come back here with him to see me. I asked if she asked to see "Mawmaw (the name she is supposed to use for me now, and my SD is supposed to be helping her to change what she calls me because of my hurt feeling over her mom taking Memaw as her name.) He said yes, she said Mawmaw but again he said it in his "lieing" voice.
Then while I was waiting for him to get home I started feeling bad about bringing up the whole Mawmaw versus Memaw thing and was going to apologize to him but he came stomping up the steps, threw my cigarettes at me, then screamed at me how "step-granddaughter" said she loved and missed me but I didn't care about that I just care about what she calls me. Then he slammed our bedroom door and stomped down the stairs. I was stunned.
We have been to marriage counseling over how he treats me. That he should speak to me in a regular voice if I have done something that upsets him instead of going off on me. He was going off on me every other week over anything and everything before the counseling. Then we stopped going back in June because he didn't think it was worth it.
Well, since this was the first time he has acted like that since last year, the counseling must have been doing some good. He didn't even appreciate that I just given his daughter money for gas! I am sick of the whole thing.
I thought when we made it to his daughter being a grown up that our marriage would be alright. She was the only one that liked to cause problems between us. But I was so wrong. She had kids and now our problems are right back!!!!