What is your opinion?
I'd just like to ask what everyone thinks about 'face timing' .
My SO wants to FaceTime his dd5 once/twice a week , which I get, but it means calling BMs phone - her answering - so her ugly mug will be on display whilst she fetches dd. the thought makes me shiver. I guess it depends on the BM , but the one in my situation is a manipulator and will love the attention it brings- she will make it all about her, not dd.
I just find the whole thing so intrusive when there is not an amicable split- seeing into each others homes, where neither ex has stepped foot. I'm sure it's different for everyone but in this case I'm really not feeling it :sick:
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She will also use it to speak
She will also use it to speak to SO because he only answers texts from her- they don't speak face to face or on the phone.which she can't stand as he doesn't give her any attention. But she will love this now because its her phone she will get to call the shots and use to her advantage. Shame dd is not old enough for her own phone
Awww thank you that made me
Awww thank you that made me smile. I need some cheering up
I don't know formy- he
I don't know formy- he basically nearly broke up with me over it because I said I didn't like it. He said I have issues with his daughter and what's wrong with him wanting to see her little face :jawdrop:
It's literally one thing after another. Oh and he's going to buy her a pony in 2 years!! (Faints...)
Fontainebleau - if he nearly
Fontainebleau - if he nearly broke up with you because you expressed your disapproval of this - please think long and hard about continuing a relationship with this man. He clearly is showing his priorities and you're not one of them.
I don't say this to be mean or nasty, I'm just saying that you can't change him and things will continue getting worse. Be sure you are prepared for him putting precious princess over you every single time.
I think you deserve better!
Thank you red. Yes I probably
Thank you red. Yes I probably do but I'm I can't seem to let go. Long story I won't go into now. But my self esteem/ worth is in tatters, plus I love the bas*^+d. I need to grow a pair quickly.
it's strange but it's
it's strange but it's actually not that bad. it's way better for you guys than for BM privacy wise, kids like to show things on facetime and at 5 yrs old she will likely show your dh all kinds of things. my skids showed us the inside of BM's fridge even when we were on facetime with them once. another time they asked if we wanted to see BM-- all we saw was BM running into the bathroom to hide! I swear we saw her entire apartment in all of it's messy glory. I actually felt kinda bad for BM, I know I would not like it if skids did that in my house. When they facetime with her we keep them in one room for the call. Then again if she saw my house, oh well really why should I care?
FAcetime can be a good way for him to remain connected to SD, it really is different and special to be able to SEE the kid talk. They can also read or make silly faces at eachother, so it's more interactive than a phone call. I say let him try it out a few times and see how it goes.
It won't be as bad as you're expecting it to be.
My kids and their dad Skype
My kids and their dad Skype regularly as we live in different states. The kids find it easier than phone calls, they get to see each other, they can show him stuff they did at school or whatever.
I honestly don't have a problem with it.
(except that when it's scheduled for when skids are here they feel the need to be part of the conversation too LOL - sure the ex loves that)
I do set it up for them, make sure all is working ok, then I leave the room.
Not sure what you can do about BM, OH just has to ignore her til she puts SD on I guess, but it doesn't seem an unreasonable request to me.