I already know this is a "DH problem," but still, it's time for SD to start responding to the many life lessons we've both tried to instill. Problem is, DH will teach, but never enforces on a consistent basis. My full time SD12 has never been anything but a disrespectful, manipulative, lazy jerk. Like I've tried to tell her over and over, at her age, it's time to start taking initiative to help out around the house (simple stuff like clean your own space and maybe wipe the counters after she puts crumbs on them) and to start being accountable for her actions.

We have SD12 full time. We have a trip of a lifetime planned for spring break. I should be so excited for this but instead, I'm already stressing about SD. With her in school all day, at least I get a few hours break from her but being trapped in planes/trains/automobiles with her takes the fun out of it. She carries this dark cloud full of attitude and disrespect. The list of reasons why I resent being a full time step keeps growing. Vacations are not really vacations.

Has anyone ever felt you've become a terrible person (a Hater since becoming a Step) when you just know you really ARE a good person?

My DH is not good at communicating. No, he flat out sucks at communicating. He's terrible at communicating with anyone when it comes to personal situations. I know he CAN communicate. He's a very effective communicator at work, but with family and friends...terrible. BM is also horrible at communicating. First, she's just plain dumb and second, she's a ghetto-rat felon. BM can't put the simplest adult thought into a clear sentence. Consequently, SD12 is a horrible communicator. She has both genetics and environment going against her. It drives me absolutely crazy every day.