Dear DH,
Let me get this straight. You want me to help you with parenting your disrespectful sociopathic pre-teen. You want me to correct her when she says hurtful inappropriate things in public and in private. You want me to help you in preventing her from turning into a rude asshole adult that BM set out to create. You want me to help undo all the damage done by BM. You want me to say something to SD rather than discreetly tell you to say something to her? YET, when I do try to say something and help with parenting, you tell me I'm a bully. That in correcting an 11 year old, I'm letting immaturity get to me so I must be immature. You want to tell me that it's my fault that she doesn't want to connect with me after I do try to parent her? It's my fault SD retreats and has no capacity to learn basic human skills?

News for you A-hole---I have an adult bio-daughter and when she was growing up, I never had this issue before with my first DH. But, I guess that's because she was my BIO-daughter and parenting a bio is called "parenting" BUT parenting a skid is called "bullying."

I give up. You're right DH. Yes, DH, ever since you turned me into a stepmom, I've become a bully and an immature bitch!! Guess I should just give up now and just be proud of the bully bitch I've turned into. Congratulations. You win. You're married to a bully. That you created.