WOW! that is ballsy..... My FDH never had an issue with the last name thing because his lawyer had it written into the divorce decree that she had to change her name. Which she hated but whatever.

Funniest thing about it was that when he told the skids they were getting divorced, skid2 didn't bat an eye - just said "Oh well. I guess mom has to go back to being BM Maidenname now." And then went about his business like it was nothing lol.

So he now has a different last name than his kids? I'm sorry...but this whole scenario just makes me cringe a little.

I would also be pissed if my son changed his name to his wifes name. JUST because the BM had the same last name. I would actually tell him that he had no balls.

Sorry..not trying to rag on you here....too me...it is really weird for a man to change his name. But times are changing and I am trying to keep up. lol

Our BM still has his last name and it makes me see red. She's getting married again soon. She said that if we ever get married, she will change fSD3 and fSD6's last name so people won't mistake me for their mother... (They should BE so lucky!)

I guess I just don't see the issue with bm keeping her married last name. He gave it to her when they got married, its hers to what she wishes with... Change it back or keep it.

My mom never changed her name back, after 15 years that was her name. If I got divorced I wouldn't change my name back either.

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I did assume. But...wasn't he going to take your name? I seem to remember your post from before. It's really neither here nor there.

I am just old fashioned and from the south too and this would be a huge deal down here. But like I said..I am trying to keep up.

Good for your FDH! I don't see the problem, it's a name.

When BS6 was named, we gave him my surname as his middle name - it is a word that works. BS6 likes it. I never married ex so we have different surnames - only issue we have had is at events with name tags BS6 will write his fathers last name on my name tag AFTER my surname! He thinks because he has both, I should too! I just laugh, I find it hilarious. He will figure it out. Ex's ex-wife kept his name for years until she remarried, as she wanted same name as the kids. Bothered ex but never bothered me. None of the skids or BS6 seemed to worry, neither did I!

Wow - well he has balls indeed. I can't weigh in on this one since names really don't matter much to me. My daughter and I haven't shared the same last name since I divorced her father and frankly, I wouldn't care if she took her dad's gf's last name (it so happens to be my last name now that I'm married to DH!!) - but yeah, names are just names to me.

Ok, here's my story on BM & keeping the last name. BM took DH last name, but gave SD her maiden name as a last name. BM & DH have been divorced for 11 years, she still has DH's last name & SD still has BM's maiden name. BM had another baby and gave it DH's last name, cause she doesn't know who the Baby's Daddy is, not that we are suprised by that.

I personally think it's her way to stay connected to DH in hopes that one day he'll come back to her, she's delusional like that though. Gotta love those crazy BM's, especially mine

I think this is pretty cool! He still has a "family" name and will pay for his child to change the name at 18. I think it says alot that his dad is cool with it too.

I am not sure whether his child is a boy or girl but if it's a boy then I would hope that he will WANT to change his name at 18.

If it's a girl it probably won't matter in the long run anyway.

Even tho BM used her maiden name during their marriage when DH and her divorced she wanted to keep his name so she would have the same name as SS. The deal with that is she doesn't have the same name as her other children. :? Anyway, DH told her fine. I wish he would have told her no way. But of course "anything for the sake of the child".

I sometimes hate it when the doctors office, etc confuses me with her but that happens less and less as the years go by.

TBH, I do hold out hope that she will remarry some day and take her DH's last name.

Uberskank kept DH's last name until she married husband 3/4 (Married and divorced him. Twice.). She was living with someone after she and DH divorced. She got pregnant, live in BF discovered she was whoring her way around the office, moved out and refused to support her while she was pregnant. Mainly because he wasn't convinced it was his.

After Uberskank's second baby was born, DH took his kid to the hospital to meet her new sibling. Uberskank told him that the suspected biodad refused to be there until paternity was established. So she asked him if her new baby could have his last name so all three would be the same. DH said sure (he was single, he didn't really give any thought to the future).

Turns out Uberskanks' exBF was the biodad, but she refused to change his kids last name.

Then she married husband 3/4 and took on his last name. They had a baby, which now had the same last name as its parents but not its siblings.

Fast forward to long drawn out custody hearings (long story, deleted those blogs). DH was given custody of his kid. Middle dad was given custody of his kid and the judge allowed him to change the last name to his last name. Last dad and Uberskank were still married so no changes there.

Fast forward to now. All three kids live with Uberskank (I think those blogs are still on my account). All three have different last names. Uberskank changed her last name to her maiden name. Which is hilarious because now her name sounds as though she has a career as a stripper or porn star.

Life lesson here. Last names don't fricking matter. }:)

By the way......I kept my maiden name after I married DH. I was married before and I had to jump through so many hoops to change it back that I vowed never to change it again.

I didn't change my name when I married DH. Too much trouble.

If I ever changed my name it would be to my grandmother's maiden name. My grandmother had 8 girls so lots of different names in our family.

A name is just a name unless it is being used as a weapon. DH's second wife changed her kids names to his unofficially and the older one officially at 18. Was used against her in the PAS case where she lost total custody of her son. Not sure what the daughter who legally changed her name did when her mother went back to her bio dad. don't care either.

Our BM never married so she still has her own name. She chose to hyphenate her kids names. Her last name first and then the fathers last name, at least the ones that she knows who the father is. So now she has 5 kids with 5 somewhat different last names and one more on the way. DH wanted SS to have only his last name but BM wanted some semblance of "normal" LOL. DH is hoping that one day he will just drop her name on his own when he comes to realize what a POS she is.

Our BM was never married to DH. So when she had ss she didn't tell DH about him until he was 18 months old. BM put her ex-husbands name on ss birth certificate as the father. So ss had his last name. Until DH file for custody and had it changed.

my ex had a totally different reaction to what i did with his name. i took my own name back immediately, and he told me it "hurt" him when i told the court i wanted my own name back when they asked. :? :O how the hell is that hurtful? i am no longer married to you and you have done horrible things to my daughter and me, but me choosing to drop your name "hurts" you? mmmkkkk.

As a BM who DID change her last name back to her maiden name and now hyphen DH's last name and I really really do not want the association to my XH... I do find it super sad for me that I not match my children. It is hard at the school, one of the most disheartening things for me was that I picked SD up at school once and when asked who I was (my name) and who I was picking up, there was no question, they just handed her over.

I then went to pick up MY DAUGHTER, and had to produce paperwork and they had to verify on the PC that I was 'allowed' to pick her up.

Just for the record, I am slavic, blonde, blue-eyed, my DAUGHTER is my mini-me. My step daughter is Hispanic and clearly not my child.

So its moments like those, that as a BM, it sucks - however, I absolutely do not want to be known as my XH's anything so ....

I would LOVE to change my daughters to my maiden name though...

BM kept DH's name - even though she claims to hate him. But I do understand the whole "same name as your child" issue. And she hasn't remarried so I could really care less. But BM goes a few steps further. She refers to herself as Mrs. DH and she wears the wedding set DH gave her on her right ring finger. Creepy!!!!! And DH wonders why I watch the ID channel. I'm learning how to deal with the psychotic I inherited when I married him. Bahahaha!!!!