I am going to start from the beginning (and this is the short version).

My husband and I met in Dec of 1999, he and his ex girlfriend to whom he had 2 kids with and raised her son from birth have not been together since 1998. We engaged in Feb of 2000 and were married in Sept of 2001. Ex was always a nightmare, cheated on him, told lies about him and was a horrible mother. When I came into the picture BM stopped letting my husband see his kids. Courts would not enforce visits. BM did agree to let SK's be in wedding we spent money on a tux and a dress and a week before the wedding she refused to let them be in it or go.

About 3 months after we were married a friend told us how the children were living, and they were not going to school. CYF then got involved, which was a huge nightmare. They did all they could to keep my husband and I out of the picture. BM told them my husband was not the father. In PA a father has little rights and the goal is always to keep the children with the mother.

About a year later BM lost custody of kids to CYF and the were placed with her sister. SK's lived there about a year and my husband was having visits, I stayed out of the picture to let him try to build back up his relationship with them. BM did not show up for her visits or court hearing, still goal was to reunify kids with mother.

SK's were then removed for BM's brother in law being investigated for child porn. They were placed with another one of BM's sisters. We were never notified they were removed and why. We found out from a friend. My husband was very upset over this.

By this time my husband was in the process of adopting my daughter, which the judge did end up granting after 2 hearings. The judge subpoena all the records from CYF and the caseworker. When caseworker was asked why children where not with their father he said because the family said he is not the father and does not want the kids around me. Judge said that my husband is listed on birth cert. of both children, my husband signed an acknowledgement of paternity and has been paying child support with no missed payments. Judge ordered paternity test at the request of my husband (which we had to pay $2000 for). He held the case until the test came back.

Once test were back judge told CYF they were in violation of my husbands right and his children need to be placed with him. He was granting the adoption and if he can adopt a child he can raise his own. BM's family was angry when my husband got custody. Also because BM did not show up for hearings or visits she was not permitted contact via court order. We did let children see BM's family and that was a huge mistake!! They would go behind our backs and let kids see BM. When we found out we stopped all contact.

We gave the kids the best of everything, moved to a better school district and provided a stable loving home. That was not good enough. Once SS moved on his own and stated talking to BM he stopped contact with his father. BM's father died and SD was 16, we would of never kept her from his funeral that would be wrong. We knew BM would be there and trouble would once again start, boy were we right.

From that time on till SD was 18 she made our lives hell. BM wants my husband back. She even went as far as moving to the same area we did, it had nothing to do with the wanting to be near the kids. We did not find out till she was out our way for 6 months.

So SD tried to break my marriage up. She put me on a dating site and told my husband I was cheating on him, thank God he knew better. SD would call me the C word, fight with me, call the cops on me when my husband was not home staying she was afraid I was going to hurt her. She stole from me and my daughter. She went to my daughter's place of employment and started trouble, SD was banned from store. She tells everyone she is my husbands only daughter and our daughter does not matter because he adopted her. SD tells everyone I am a drug addict, she called my place of employment and they made me take a random drug test, not that I had to worry but that was not the point. SD had me so sick with stress to the point I lost my job for calling off sick.

Finally she was told she had until graduation to find a place to go that she could not continue to live with us and act like she does. SD left that night, she was 18.

My husband wants nothing to do with her. He told SD that she does not have to like me, but she does have to respect me. That he is finally happy and he will not let anyone ruin his happiness. SD replied as long as he is with me she will continue to try to come in between us. She said her mother's feelings are hurt he married me so soon after meeting me and adopted my daughter. That he was with her mother for 12 years and refused to marry her or adopt her son. My husband then told SD that if her mother wanted him so bad then why did she cheat on him with not just one but many. The boyfriend she is with now she was cheating on my husband with. He told my SD do the math, your mother has been with her boyfriend for 17 years and they were only split up for 15 years. She called my husband a f'en a-hole and hung up on him. that was the last time he took a phone call from her.

She was calling him, me, our daughter and my house phone 30 times a day, leaving nasty messages. SD was harassing us so bad that we had to change all of our phone numbers. We block SD her mother and her family on Facebook. Now SD and BM are harassing our friend and family for our numbers. When will this end. Move on and get over it. They made their bed now they have to sleep in it.