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Wierd! my sons dad is cleanaing up possibly

FeelinTrapped's picture

ok so i dont blog about my ex really ever. he is a tweaker in tucson and would show u nce a year and try to play dad for 2 hours. so ive cut all communication. He had his mom call me (i think he asked her to anyway) and she went off about how hes getting clean and blah blah blah. I feel bad bc i really dont want to hear from him me and my DH dont have to fight about him or the kids and we only have his baby mama issues. The only real thing i want from my ex is some damn back child support and to pay me back for the things he got in my name with my ss# that i had to pay off!!!! it was like $7000 btw. I am just feeling conflicted and i hate feeling like crap.

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Kb3Hooah's picture

My Ex is addicted to Meth. Has been for a few years now. He was in and out of the kids lives, constantly disappointing them. I finally put an end to the contact as it was only once every few months anyhow. I struggled with this decision because I was so afraid that one day his efforts were actually going to be sincere and I did not want to be responsible for coming between that. But it took some time that he has cried wolfe (saying he's clean and not selling anymore, and his life is straightened out) so many times that even if he were telling the truth, I couldn't put my kids at risk to take that chance.

I would suggest that he look into some sort of Fatherhood Program if he is sincere about being a part of his child's life. And make that a stipulation that he complete a program like this. The Fatherhood Program in my area assists in many areas such as, Unemployement, Gaining Employement, Paying CS and Arrears, dealing with the barriers that they face such as
-Lack of a high school diploma
-Criminal record
-No transportation
-No driver’s license
-Alcohol and substance abuse problems
-Mental health issues

I hope this information helps! Try googling this type of program for his area.

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GiGi222's picture

Don't listen to family. They will always protect him. At least my ex's fam does. His mom actually called me once to ask to go to the court and say he doesn't owe back CS. Seriously lady?!
You need proof before you let him back into your children's lives. I agree with MM on the Fatherhood Program possibilities.