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These damn viral BM/SM letters...

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Submitted by fedupstep on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 9:29am

There seems to be a lot of these letters going around. It's nice to think that some blended families can truly get along, but seriously...I want to throw up at these pathetic expressions of self-wonderfullness.

Here's what I would tell BM if I ever cared enough to talk to her.

Dear BM,

I do not need, want or ask for your approval. You can say or think anything you want about me. I do not lose a moment's sleep over your opinion. I will not raise your child or be her 'friend'. I will, however, provide her with a home, food and something severly lacking in her life. Consistantcy. She will be expected to pick up after herself. She will be expected to do homework. She will be expected to treat both her father AND me with respect. In return she will get respect. Real respect, not store-bought, over the top promises. If she does not deliver, it will be dealt with swiftly. She will not die from not having a tv in her room. She will not go crazy from not using her cell phone at our house. And she will not wither away if she is taught some basic life skills, like cooking, cleaning and laundry. If you want her still living with you as an adult not knowing how to do anything, that's your business, but she is not bunking on our couch.

I will never badmouth you in front of your daughter, no matter how many times you to push my buttons. I will never say anything other than, 'it's too bad your mom feels that way' to you daughter when she tells me what you say.

You have done your daughter no favours in babying her, doing everything for her, making excuses for her, never having any consequences and feeling it was more important to be a cool mom than a real parent. She will turn on you one day and you will be stunned at the ungratefulness she is capable of.

Did you know she complains about you when she is at our house? Oh, I know she does it to manipulate her DDDDAAADDDDDYYYY, and I know she likely does the same about us to you as well. The child you gave birth to will stop at nothing to get what she wants. She has broken her dear daddy's heart on multiple occasions when he was forced to see her for who she really is. One day you will too.

I did not create this child. I did not cause the mess she makes with her life. I will not interfer with DH's parenting, no matter how much I disagree with how he does it. I blame you both equally.

I only pray she gets away from both of you and learns how the world treats self-entitled, lying, manipulating, brats. She is in for a rude awakening and I will not be there to catch her when she falls.

If she had shown me a second of respect, maybe things would be different. I've made peace with not having a relationship with your daughter. I will smile and fake it when needed; but make no mistake, I am counting the days till she turns 18.

Yours Very Spiritedly,

FedUp

(wow that felt good)

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 9:35am

This is what I came up with:
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Nope, sorry couldn't come up with anything important enough to waste my time on a letter to BM. BM1 would be too high on her prescription drugs to comprehend a word and BM2 is certain she is MOTY and even SS16 sitting his ass in prison would not change her perception.

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Submitted by fedupstep on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 9:35am

lol!

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Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 11:47am

Hahahaha

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Submitted by NoWireCoatHanga... on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 10:04am

These letters don't make me mad. The Jada Pinkett Smith posts about Stepmothers and her pictures piss me the hell off every single time.

The BM in my life is definitely jealous that I'm a pretty . She doesn't want me in her ex husband's life or her children's life. She wants him to sit at home alone and pine for her for the rest of his life. She gets mad as hell and abusive when her daughter asked me to go on a school field trip when she couldn't go and was so ugly to her daughter about it she cried for an entire day. The BM in my life could never ever be construed as an adult and wouldn't know how to form paragraphs or spell to write a letter. You should see her texts with autocorrect. The BM is a true and tried GOlden Utereus BM. The lady who wrote that letter I would gladly trade BM for.

When I got divorced the main thing I worried about was that my ex husband was going to marry the woman he cheated on me with and that she was going to be my kid's stepmother. Thank God he didn't. The woman he married is young and nice and educated and loves my children and we can coparent just fine , he and her and my SO and I. I like my kid's stepmother. We aren't best friends. We don't hang out. We don't write each other letters and my approval was not asked for by my ex husband but I must admit I approve of my kid's stepmother. I came to pick up my kid's last night and my Kindergartener was in her stepmother's lap on the recliner and they were reading a book. It made me smile. They love each other. They do. If BM came to my house and picked up her kids and her daughter was showing me any kind of affection, there would be hell to pay. There is no coparenting with SO, I, BM, and her husband. We have never been in the same room together and I don't think we will ever be able to do so

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Submitted by momandmore on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 11:08am

LOL

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Submitted by Glassslipper on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 11:32am

BM,
You are the craziest, scariest most abusive and manipulative person I have ever met, and that is saying alot. I think you need help and I know your children do after the extensive mental damage you have inflicted on them.
I will be staying far away from you. I will continue to protect my children and DH from you (that's why your blocked from contacting us by any means except email).
May GOD have mercy on your soul and on your children as they grow up learning to cope with the mental abuse and control you have inflicted on them.

Love always,
You ex's MAJOR upgrade!

P.s. sorry your ugly and fat, but I know that's not the source of your anger (your angry just like your mom, because of her abuse and now your doing the same thing to your children) Your just like your MOTHER!

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 11:50am

Dear Stupid,

It is bad enough that you lost custody of your kids 5 years ago bc you were a selfish, greedy pig, then you go and get SS15 taken away a 2nd time.
I wasn't there to save the little brat this time was I? You sure didn't think about his future when you encouraged him to treat me like shit so that I wouldn't let him or his older brother live in my house ever again. So, now SS15 is in state custody, in foster care bc you acted like a child instead of a grown up woman that choose to replace your husband with another man and put your children first.

I honestly think your master plan, after DSO moved on with his life, was to completely destroy DSO bc you know SS15 is his precious little snowflake...or maybe you are too stupid to think ahead or of consequences, just like SS15 TBH.

Don't worry, no matter what, in 2.5 years, SS15 will be set free and can come live with you forever and ever. In 3.5 years, SD will be 18 or graduate and I will never ever have to see, think, or hear your name ever again.

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Submitted by Drac0 on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 1:37pm

Dear Donkeykong,

Why do you bother? You remind me of that kid in grade school who would get mad at us because we wouldn't play checkers with him since we've moved on and are playing chess now.