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Submitted by Exhausted SM on Wed, 04/04/2007 - 4:59pm

Hello my fellow step parents. I need some advice, My evil SD that has refused to come see us since Christmas and who has made false accusations about me to her mom in hopes that she will not make her visit us, has decided she wants to come see us next weekend! I am desperately trying to get scheduled that weekend at work. Should I just stay in my house and deal with her or should I avoid her all together?

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Submitted by loonybonusmom (not verified) on Wed, 04/04/2007 - 7:29pm

learn a lesson from all of us! it is your house too right? your life? your happiness involved? hiding and compensating for the kids will only cause stress and bite you in the ass in the end. IF this kid wants to come home for a visit that should be coming home to you and dad, and visiting with you too! Not sure how old this skid is involved, but avoiding her will only give in, and I think you must stand YOUR ground, by that I mean, Your life, your home your space. Some kids find it easy to blame us steps for problems they have instead of dealing with them. I think avoiding her avoids any future problems, really...are you going away every time she wants to visit? You might just be lucky and this time away may have taught her too appreciate the home you have. Be there, love her, and see how things go.

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Submitted by Little Jo on Thu, 04/05/2007 - 10:50am

Stay home. Just do normal things that you would do. Don't cater to her.
It happened to me once. BM asked BF I could leave the house for the visit. Are you F*$king serious? You want me to leave MY OWN house.
I stayed home, but left them to do there thing while I cleaned and did some gardening.

Let us know what you decide. Good luck