ok so apparently my lifestyle isn't compatible with my mom. i do go out when dd isn't home because it's my ONLY down time...which is a mere 4 days a month. apparently that is stressing my mom out, and depsite she hasn't had to clean the house, do her laundry, the dishes or do much of ANY yard work unless she beats me to the punch and i jump when she asks something of me i'm not being a contributing memeber of the family because i like to go out all night when dd isn't home. of course i told her, 4 days a month is ALL i ask for or the weekends dd isn't home so i can take regular breaks. of course then it was "when was the last time i had a break?" from my mom. i understand completely i really do, BUT i reminded her "mom, you're not working full time, going to school full time OR raising a child full time, and helping with your dying grandparents (she didn't when she was in my position) i understand you need a break to, i'm here to help, but i'm not comfortable taking over guard dog duty with grandpa, i'll freak out if something happens while i'm on guard, and that's the ONLY responsiblity you have, is taking care of him-i understand it's a lot becasue it's around the clock, and i'll help when i can but you have 3 siblings that need to step up to the plate. i can't go to work/school and raise dd and not ever have ANY down time.

so yeah, i'll be looking into getting out soon. like within the month