The plot thickens ... Update on SDiabla27
So, it turns out that the "double date" at the bar as one of you steptalkers named it, was actually DH & SD27 and SD's girl friend & the friend's Dad AND SD's friend's Step-Mother was at the bar too! SD's friend is a SD! So let's keep count. Now it is "quality time" with 1. DH 2. SD's friend 3. SD's friend's Dad and 4. SD's friend's SM and last but not least, the Diabla27. It is NOT quality time if Elea joins. LMAO
I think my poor DH may be having a mental breakdown. Yesterday he allowed SD to invite girl friend and girl friend's BF over to our house.
I went to work in the morning. On my drive home I am hoping friends are gone by the time I return. I am thinking about that IV of tequila Rags mentioned. I show up and they're having a cook-out in my backyard. Ok. Cool. DH comes in to the house and begs me to come say hello and meet them. He says they're really great people and so nice. I'm like, this is so weird and uncomfortable but sure. (I also can't think of anything more annoying to SD27 than for me to be my wonderful self in front of her friends.) So I go outside, throw a couple of hot dogs on the grill and charm the pants off of SD's friend and friend's BF. Lol I know my work is done so I go back inside the house to take a shower and get ready because DH and I have a concert to go to.
DH and I go to the concert and while there DH casually throws in ... I can't remember exactly how he phrased it but it was something like, "Wouldn't it be funny if they're having a party when we return." I'm like, they're not going to STILL be there when we get home are they? At which point he drops ... "You're probably not going to like this but I told SD that she can invite them to stay over if she wants." *ROFL* *ROFL* 
Step-talkers I ask, how would YOU react??? Well, I kept my cool as a cucumber. Fortunately I had had some medicinal herb that may have been helping with that. Poor delusional DH thinks that SD has magically changed. I say, "Ok, well, let's just see how this goes."
We returned and SD is still hanging out with her friends. My BD22 is working on her homework. I go inside to talk to my BD22 while DH spends a little more time with SD & friends. Fortunately SD's friends (who live a short distance away) eventually opted to go back home.
After they left my BD22 asked my DH for his opinion on her homework. (DH's career is in the same area that BD22 is studying in college.) DH, BD22 and I all sat together in our family room, chatting like normal people do. So here's the true test of if SD27 has "changed." She could easily come and sit down with us to join the conversation. Does she do that???? Guesses? Any guesses anyone? Of course not. She sat silently sullen in the other room with her big face glued to her phone. Believe it or not, this is actually a big improvement. In the past she would have been crying and throwing a tantrum by now about how she "Just wants to be alone with Dad" and the "other family" has taken her rightful position.
So let's see what today has in store for us? It's going to be a wild ride this week. Prayers and Thoughts appreciated.
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Crazy. No I wouldn't have a
Crazy. No I wouldn't have a 27 year old kid invite their friend and friends bf overnight at my house whether it was a bio kid or step kid.
The way you described that
The way you described that outing certainly feels like a big exclusion. I think your DH should not attend such a thing without you in tow. It's a RUDE INVITATION to say someone can't come. He should tell her outright that it's petty and rude and poor etiquette and if he goes you go and thats that. Or he won't go. And he shouldn't go at all to this thing.
DH totally agrees with what you said
And he said he will have a talk with her. We shall see.
I agree with Yesterdays - it
I agree with Yesterdays - it indeed feels very rude to specifically say someone can't come and I think someone in your previous post said the whole outing may have been designed to exclude you which I think is more than likely. It is certainly something my step daughters have done on numerous occasions over the years. I think if your DH is at all loyal to you he should refuse any such horrible invitations.
He really should address her
He really should address her about the quality alone time night out... clearly everyone saw that motive.
Something I will never understand is how people go about their everyday lives like your SDs and many others..not just skids but people in general who's only goal is to be an a**hole. The energy it must take to be like that... so much wrong in this world and you got big baby SD27 sulking in the corner because no one is paying attention to her.
The way she acts is more like
The way she acts is more like a teenager. Like they never grew up. Like a kid still! At that age I had children and my own house and invited my parents over and fed them and entertained for them. When my dad remarried then had them both over for food!
The step-Diablas seem to be
The step-Diablas seem to be very developmentally delayed. When SD's were children BM kept them under her total control, not a moment of peace without her inserting herself into every detail of every day. DH's SM tells me that BM wouldn't even let the diablas do their own art work without her coming over and drawing on the picture they were drawing. If you have a window open then she will close it. If you have a door closed then she will open it. She is so freaking weird and SD's are just the same. This morning SD27 came into the room where DH and I were hanging out and opened up the french doors. Then she LEFT. Why rearrange the room someone is relaxing in and then leave? It's all weird interference stuff.
Something tells me SD27 doesn
Something tells me SD27 doesn't have a lot going for her. Does she have an education, a career, a boyfriend? I'm guessing nope, nope, and nope. No way a functional 27-year-old has that much time on her hands. She sounds like a soap opera character.
She does have an education
She does have an education and degree. She just got a new job and she is self-supporting other than when she mooches off DH or her BM. I guess in that way I am lucky, so far.
Time for Brattleigh to grow
Time for Brattleigh to grow up, then.
Awe did he get out sleeping
Awe did he get out sleeping bags and juice boxes for the fucking ADULTS to have a sleepover? Nothing reeks of pathetic more than a 27 year old telling her grown ass adult friends “My dad says you can sleep over if you want.”
lol!
Yes!
Really? *nea*
Diabla SD-27 visits, then invites her friends to your home. Really?
We visit my parents regularly. They would dispose of our bodies if we did not stay with them. We have many friends near them. We visit those friends at their homes we do not invade my parent's home with our friends.
That the Diablas do this kind of crap is just more invasive control and disrespect.
You need to tell daddy this every time they preannounce their upcoming invasion and make sure he knows damned good and well that you are done tolerating their crap. I would also make damned sure that you show up with DH to any of these daddy and me bullshit get togethers. Her friend brought her dad and her SM. That is the clarity that you need to plant a flag on and keep daddy's nose scrubbed into.
If Diabla SD-27 does her usual tantrum crap, turn to DH and tell him to deal with it, then stand up, ring your wine glass with the table knife and confidently and loudly appologize to everyone for your husban'd daugthers attention seeking look at meeeeeee episode. Then sit down and enjoy the rest of your meal. The SDiabla can get an Uber or Lyft to the airport or whatever hotel she wants to go crawl into her hole at. If her stuff is at your home, she can sit on the front step until you and DH finish your evening.
I am beyond incensed that this shit goes on at all much less for decades.
Unfortunately DH seems to
Unfortunately DH seems to have misplaced his balls. I hope he finds them again soon because it is so unattractive.
You're staying cool
I admire your poise. Only 6 more days, right?
I need some of your medicinal
I need some of your medicinal herb after reading this. I am FURIOUS that you were left out of the invite, yet the friend's dad and SM were there! WTF is that!
But I laughed over your charming nature in the backyard with them. I've done the same thing. . . purposely poured distilling solution all over the negatives steps' friends/family have heard about me -- but those days are behind me.
I hate your SD, probably because she is so much like mine.
Thanks for the commiseration.
Thanks for the commiseration. I hate her too. I never used to be the type of person to hate other people so I'm not happy about it but yet here we are. It takes too much energy so I am trying to let it go and focus on what I love rather than the negativity she brings into our lives.
What a [four letter for female dog] SD is
She is stabbing you in the back. and DH is Oblivious to all of this. She made sure that you were not at the bar to meet his new GF. Then she invited them over to your home, with out your permission. For a BBQ and to stay the night. These are people you don't even know.
You know how wrong this is.. SD must go, this is a hill you must died on, Get it over with now, why are you still young, and gave life opportunities. It's SD or you. It's up to DH. I Personally can't see how DH is so blind, aloeihg SD to blindside you like this. Setting up a blind date with her GF mom. This goes past normal Disney dadddy thing. Looks like time to start on making a exit plan . DH can't be that stupid. He went along with it
So many people on these boards play along with this nonsense, get old and sick, and can't leave . You are healthy and young
It is all unblieveable. The
It is all unblieveable. The level of self-delusion involved in order for DH not to fully see what SD is up to is extraordinary. It wasn't the GF's Mom that was there tho. It was the GF's Dad & GF's Step-Mom.
My guess is that SD's GF's
My guess is that SD's GF's dad has balls and would not tolerate his spawn manipulating like SD does with her own father. My guess is also that SD's GF is not a hag like SD is and would not disrespect her father and his wife.
Cahones
DH has some guts to invite Diabla's friends to stay over without even ASKING you first....I would not have let my DH off the hook so fast. He knows better. Luckily the friends declined.
I also wonder what story Diabla paints to her friends. I seem to have found myself on the side of Tik Tok where the occasional "poor SD, my SM is a monster" video shows up, and the comments are all "YOU POOR THING". I recently saw one where SM just always had to go along with SD and dad. No inkling of the SM's side of the story, but we know there is usually more to it.
Did you smack your husband into next week?
Wow. Im so sorry Elia.