Ok I will explain my feelings...dh and I have been married for 8 years...both of our spouses had passed away before we met each other. Dh had 3 adult children...2 of which lived in his state of birth..sd lived in same state as dh.....I had 3 children as well..2 under 18 and one adult....a couple of years ago dh,myself, my daughter and sd and her family were transferred to dh former state where all dh family is....things went bad fast....my be came of age and moved back...sd and s il did the break up back together break up dance...sd blamed me and my daughter for everything . Then a year later, dh and I transferred back. Shortly after sd lost custody of her children...she has dh snowed about the whole situation. Anyway what is really bothering me is dh texting sd several times a day with I love you and I miss you sweetheart messages...no mention of grand kids.,and I don't receive a message from him unless I send him one first...usually I get a reply of "what" from him....I don't see why he has to message her a dozen times a day and if he is going to call her sweetheart or cutie pie in all his messages then I don't want him using those same terms with me.