It sure does. I am exhausted with it all .

I have been fighting for a long, long time. It is because I am still invested. I notice that when things get REALLY bad I tend to pull away. I imagine if things got to that point again I would pull away really far and leave. I have been through a lot. There was a point late last year that I was considering leaving my marriage. I was talking to a real estate agent. Perhaps my husband sensed this and got his act together (somewhat)

If I go silent it is a BAD sign.

As of now I've been explaining and explaining. I'm to the point if he doesn't get it now when will he. I don't want to be an earworm repeating the same $hit to him, hoping that "he'll get it" 

This is how I used to feel. 
 

Pissed off the Disneyland dad constantly accusing me of "not being involved enough" with his disrespectful loud messy codependent spawns.  
 

Arguing with him about this because he refused to see how his lack of boundaries n structure, enabling their c*nt mother to drop them off anytime off schedule last minute, having them over just to cater to them while they contributed nothing (laid on their duffs all day like broke roommates, refused to clean after themselves, roamed my kitchen all night inhaling food like rabid raccoons, etc) wasn't single-handedly destroying out relationship (as I no longer had any physical attraction to him anymore)

I got tired of the ptsd I experienced when his ferals randomly plowed through the front door and relieved after they left

I got tired of him arguing with me every weekend or more. 
 

I got tired of his willfully obtuse behavior. 
 

Once I reached my breaking point I was DONE being his b*tch beck n call sidekick exisisting just to help him coddle his manipulative ex wife and codependent kids

He was very stupid to  think I was about to sit here and waste my already - stretched thin resources on a man who was not ready for a new relationship because he clearly overly prioritized his ex wife and her kids. Not about to play into some sick sister wives fetish where I'm treated like the mistress/5th wife to his ex-spouse and mini-spouse. 
 

Nope!!! He had me effed up!!!

I would intentionally "disappear" during his random custody "schedule" because if Disneyland dad tried to use me as a live in maid - then I refused to use any other resources (expending  energy entertaining them, spending money on them, helping him in any other capacity with them, etc)

I disengaged right on out of the house living with him, those ferals, and their c*nt mother by proxy (who conveniently for her selfish interests lived 5 minutes away)

You tried, they didn't want the help.  You did your part.  It's the birth parent who first  relationship failed, like they didn't gave a part in it.   Gets involved in a second relationship, thinking they know best. Because they failed already.  Just gets on line to fail again.   Not many divorce people go for help to find out why they failed.  They just do it again.  Think they are getting different results.

SP just disengage from the SK, You just stop wasting your time and money, effort for no good reason.   Weather you stay in your relationship that up to you.   At a certain age the chance to find someone good gets less .  Just a bunch of fail relationships people out there,

Husband and I are in our "just friends" phase.

Hey, Dollbabies,

I've always wondered how the settling of your DH's estate ended up after his untimely death. As I recall, your awful steps were horribly neglectful of their father yet shed crocodile tears at his funeral. At that time, you feared that the steps would create issues over your DH's will; standard operating procedure for those types of 'bottomfeeders'.