I had asked DH a few days prior if he could put DS3 to bed and watch the baby monitor Thursday night. He was a maybe, but said SD13 would be home and she could definitely "babysit." I immediately said, nevermind I'll just cancel my plans. I think DH was offended. Not that I care. He said "SD needs to start taking on more responsibilities." NO WAY I would ever let her solely watch my son. She completely ignores him when they are in the same room together. Typically only in the kitchen when SD13 comes downstairs to get food. They have no relationship & don't interact.

WOW. I am shocked to tell about the conversation DH and I had yesterday. 
 

Quick backstory: Been with DH for 8 years and SD is 13. 50/50 CO with BM. Disengaged for my own mental health and to prevent arguments with DH.

I've posted more lately about all the issues with SD13. Vaping, mess of a room, friends over, poor grades, etc. 

DH and I were on the phone otw home from work. Simply asked if SD was going to be at our house this wknd. Change of plans were up in the air earlier in the week. 
 

I've had my suspicions for a while now, but I can 100% say SD is vaping/smoking. 
 

- she sneaks candle lighters in her room

- says she needs incense to burn 

- her BFF got written up at school for smoking in the bathroom 

- said BFF was "hanging out" in SDs room today and when they left I noticed her bedroom window was open (it's 30 degrees outside in the middle of winter) 

SD13 told DH a while ago that BM was pregnant. BM made her "announcement" on FB and SD said it was a boy due around May/June I think. 

This will be BMs THIRD baby daddy (not married either). She has a 19 y/o son. SD13 (with DH). And now a baby boy on the way with a different Dad. 

BM has claimed in the past that she want to move back to her home state. And do more travel nursing to "see the world." Well guess that won't be happening anytime soon. Bady Daddy also has his own kid he shares custody of.