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dinner with the skid and he finally gets it

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Submitted by dodgegal05 on Mon, 06/27/2011 - 10:27pm

We had dinner with the one skid I can stand tonight. It went very well and we all talked and got along great. After dinner I pointed out how different this dinner was compared to the past dinner. The last time we did dinner with a skid I was excluded from convo, no eye contact was made, etc...he finally saw my point! At the time all that occurred he thought I was over reacting. He is slowly learning and he said he would stop that from happening again. Time will only tell.

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Submitted by Dory on Tue, 06/28/2011 - 8:24am

I have identified another pattern in step-life. My DH also only started to take action (in the past couple of years) when he was pushed out of HIS comfort zone. Skids' attitudes towards me had me out of my comfort zone for 17 years, but only when I established boundaries for how I would be treated by others, which then impacted on DH and by default he was obliged to speak up, only then did he. Yip, they only "get it" when it's also aimed at them.

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Submitted by Eyes Wide Open on Tue, 06/28/2011 - 6:19pm

Oh yeah....same here....they only seem sincere when they want something. Disengagement is a wonderful thing! Now, I don't care if they stare out the window, doesn't bother me. They can be as rude and disrespectful as they want. Won't happen at this house, or anywhere near me. I am DONE! And yes, it's taken 5 years for DH to even begin to notice how horrible his adult kids are....