Did you actually talk to her and she said that to you? Wow What a brat.
It's sounds like something my SD would tell me. But if you were to think that even you would be horrible.... I AM SO VERY SORRY
Did you tell DH?
What did he say about that comment?

is this SD? Old enough to know better than to say something like that? Did you tell your DH?

Wow, what a rude mean twit. Keep your distance - you do not have to take the abuse. I wouldn't allow her in the house until you speak to DH and set ground rules for behavior.

Please don't get sad, get angry, get righteous. That is unacceptable and it sounds like a line fed to her by a friend or by BM.

shed any tears over it, but I sure wouldn't stick my neck out to include her on anything in the future. Leave that part up to DH.

"They say God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I just wish he didn't have so much confidence in me."

I'm sorry. I'm sorry that she's such a spoiled little brat that she thinks it's acceptable to speak that way to you, or to any adult for that matter. I don't care what her reason is... her period, her mother, whatever...!! She needs to get a good "Coming to Jesus" meeting with you and your DH. Please don't let him let her get away with this.

I'd get her and your DH together and let him just rip into her and tell her exactly what is wrong with her own little attitude and that it needs to STOP NOW.

I'd be hurt too, so I can't even give you advice on how to get over it. But if you can, when your DH is around, I would be sure to say something to her along the lines of .... "You know SD, that wasn't nice of you to call me names. I know there's a few things about you that I could comment on that would make you feel bad, but I don't because I'm not like that. And I don't think you'd like it either if I were to point out your faults." And then just clam up and let DH go at her again. And let her sit and wonder what you might think her faults are!!

But hey, I'm not always nice. I think that girl needs a mental spanking, as well as a verbal one!

It's good that DH is on your side. I think that there should be consequences for bad behavior. When my SD hung up on me one too many times - I stopped answering her phone calls ( I LOVE called ID) until she apologized. When I was a kid my girlfriend's mother made her son call her Mrs. Last Name because she overhead him call her the "Old Lady".

They don't seem to learn until they are made unaccountable.

Maybe you look really good in a swimsuit and she is jealous!
Glynne

for a long time. That i just un-called for and extremely rude.

Maybe you look too nice. I know that's part of BM and Skids issue with me. I look better then both of them!

Dixiebell, I almost told you not to call her (even though you already did.) The reason? I thought she might do something like that. 16 year bio daughters are hard to deal with but 16 SD are really nasty. Especially if they have a nasty BM to egg them on. Don't take it personally and ignore her nasty remarks. She's jealous of you and your baby.

I would go focus on my DH and baby. It sounds like DH is a winner!

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

bm is really getting into her head!!!!!

her BM is probably ugly... and she can't stand that her Dear Daddy has found some hot chick like you! I'd just forget about it.. or use my favorite ... sarcasm.. like "don't worry SD.. I know I'm hot, but boys will still look at you, maybe one day you'll be pretty like me, boobs and all".. Or "Hopefully you don't have your Mom's gene's".. whatever...

If she's still friends with your sister and you're only 10 years older than her and 2 years older than her brother then yah... don't even try anymore because it's not happening! Enjoy the baby and hubby and don't give them another thought!

Could she be jealous of you? What a ninny! I wouldn't try to have a relationship with her. It will only be a waste of your time and energy! I agree with Wicked, enjoy your baby and dh and don't give them another thought!

You arn't going to win SD over. SHe sounds like she has been poisoned to the point of no return. I don't blame you for feeling hurt because that was pretty cruddy what she said. I wouldn't put myself in that position again. Let DH do all the talking and stop bending over backwards to include her. Wash your hands because you did what you could do.

Your DH did the right thing by giving her consequences to her actions. She shouldn't expect any hand outs from daddy if she can't AT LEAST be civil towards his wife. He is sending her a loud message by cutting allowance and saying no to the car. Kids seem to EXPECT things like this from their parents. They have a false sense of entitlment like being born means they are OWED things. Not true. If they can't be respectful they need to be reminded that they are the kids and if cutting off monetary things is the only way to get it across....so be it.

I would totally not allow her to harrass the baby. She would be asked to leave if she is so nasty she can't be amincable to a two year old. IT'S A TWO YEAR OLD! Give me a break. It is the baby's home as well adn SD needs to respect that if nothing else. baby has a right to be safe and secure in her own home.

Having a baby does not make you a mother.

Disengage is the only answer IMHO. Step back and out for a while and let this work its self out. You don't have to be talked to like that.

Next time I saw her I'd make sure she knows just how unacceptable it is to.

I'm so sorry, I know you had your hopes up so high.

~all you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust...and sometimes a machine gun~

I don't care what her reasons are. People need to respect one another and you deserve respect. She should be taught to treat others as she expects to be treated. What if you were to say "I don't want that stupid, spoiled, hideous little brat in my house"? Would that be acceptable? No. What she said is no more acceptable and DH needs to tell her that.