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Another day in the life of a Step-Mother

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Submitted by Diamond1968 on Tue, 11/22/2011 - 6:38pm

Or should I say step monster? I just can't bond with her. I'm not sure I will ever understand her or the situation. Hopefully being on this forum will get me some release.

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Submitted by Diamond1968 on Tue, 11/22/2011 - 6:45pm

PS. Her voice is most of the time like fingers on a chalkboard to me! Good Lord Help Me!!!

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Submitted by LauraKR on Tue, 11/22/2011 - 10:16pm

Its been nearly 8 years for me and I feel no love for my husbands 2 daughters, who are incidentally adults.
Been on an emotional roller-coaster since I first set eyes on them and so now I just don't see them at all.
Don't understand them.
Don't understand why they hate me.
Don't understand any of it but I actually don't try to understand any more.

Draw a line and step over it.
Be happy, life is short.
Kx

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Submitted by LauraKR on Tue, 11/22/2011 - 10:21pm

Just re-read my comment to you and it sounds pretty hopeless and depressing!
Sorry, I wish I could say it will all be ok.
I may well be ok for you if you give it some time.
Just don't waste years and years trying to fix an unfixable situation like I did that's all.
Kx

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Submitted by LauraKR on Tue, 11/22/2011 - 10:39pm

To be honest I never even got close to bonding with his 2 daughters.
I can't even refer to them as my step daughters, it just feels all wrong.
We are very happy my hubby and I so its ok now but we went through some very bad times because of them.
I could kick myself for stupidly continually putting myself in their line of fire.
Should have realised it was hopeless much sooner.
Would have far fewer grey hairs if I'd just stopped trying.