UPDATE!!! Heres whats gonna go down at Dguwih's house!!!
So last night I got home, drank a bottle of wine and sat on my front porch... Contemplating my life, my choices and how its been, and how..its gonna be...
When BF pulls up, he gets out and says "hey babe" I say hi (without even looking up at him) He runs in to grab a beer and I tell him to grab my wine 
He walks out and says "you drank the whole bottle? How long have you been home?" I say.. About a half hour (still without looking at him)
So as we sit out on our front porch in utter silence I do not look at him once.. And we go to bed.. So I wake up today and send him a message.. "So, are we ok?" He says "we are fine DG" I reply "are you sure about that??" Yes.. So I say "if you think our only problem was me going thru your phone, your mistaken, and I'm sorry. You don't need to worry about that anymore, it is what it is... I don't want to speak of BM anymore, fight over here anymore.. I miss what we used to be and I miss you"
NO RESPONSE
So guess what ladies? I'm going out tonight.. Gonna go home after work, get all dolled up, put on BFs fav jeans that hug my ass just right, and walk out that front door, right past him sitting on the couch (prolly texting BM) I'm DONE playing 2nd best, I'm DONE giving BF money out of my check each week, I'm DONE spending over 200 a week at kroger on groceries for him and his kids, and I'm DONE sitting at home playing "perfect family" We have the skids this weekend, and guess who isn't getting up at 7 am sunday morning to make breakfast??
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Good for you! Seriously...
Good for you! Seriously... you go girl... take your life back!
You deserve so much better
You deserve so much better than this. But kudos to you for realizing that if all he was good for was "taking" you've gotta stop "giving"
I would let BM have this jerk.
good for you... it's hard to
good for you... it's hard to walk away especially when you had some good times and there is still love there, but... you are not his and his Skids doormat/maid and if it's more important to him to have a cutesy relationship with BM then so be it, but you are right... you should not have to play second fiddle to anyone... she is the mother of his children... not God, not his wife, not his best bud but he just can't seem to get out of those categories.... Good luck girl.. he'll be begging for you to come back GUARANTEED!
The thing to remember is it
The thing to remember is it isn't about revenge or proving something.
It is about running your life the way you want to. Ab out him either wanting in or out of your life.
I strongly suspect he will be trying to get into your good books within a week. He will see that his ex is still the same and his life is going down the toilet. He will want back in.
However will he try and drag you down or run to catch up with you?
I hope it is the latter with clear guidelines. I hate to see relationships flounder and die. But if the life is being sucked out of you... what else can you do?
Thanks ladies! But remember,
Thanks ladies! But remember, the house we are living in.. ITS MY HOUSE!! He would be the one leaving
He would be the one trying to figure out where to live... NOT ME!! Everything in our house is mine except for his tv and clothes!! Been my house for 3 years and I sure as hell aint goin nowhere...
Oneoffour, exactly!!! It may
Oneoffour, exactly!!! It may have sounded like I was leaving for good tonight, but I'm not... I'm gonna be worrying about myself, and spending my money on ME!! I think once BF sees his personal ATM is closed, something is gonna change.. If BF doesn't get what I'm saying everytime I spell it out for him, maybe this will work.. I work full time, I have MY house and MY car.. I don't NEED him to support me. And he knows that. As of now BF thinks I'm as dumb as BM was.. I'm NOT.. This is my challange for him.. He can pass or fail.. And as oneoffour said, he can decide if he wants in or out of MY life..
Good for you. We're behind
Good for you. We're behind you cheering. But be ready for the tactics, the anger, the guilt trip, the claim of ignorance...take some time to think clearly about how you want things to be. Very simple, a list even. "No BM in our house" "No communication except about kids." etc. Stick to the script, broken record time.
Its funny cause he used to
Its funny cause he used to give me spending money each week... I'm gonna just sit back for a bit and watch.. But I'm done playing his games.. Thanks for your support ladies.. I just wanna see the look on his face when I head out tonight.. Without him!
While I can understand the
While I can understand the premise that sneaking through his phone logs is completely inappropriate (it is IMHO) I can also understand that for most people with nothing to hide it would not be a big deal.
My wife and I both have the PWs for each other's e-mail and our phones are usually together when we are home so we can each asuage our curriosity any time we feel like. We don't but we could if either of us wanted to.
Occassionally we will go in to each other's e-mail or telephones to forward ourselves an account number, phone number, etc....
When that happens one of the other of us will usually say "Oh, by the way I went in to your account the other day to get a number, etc....."
Neither of indicated that it bothers us.
Best regards.
Rags.. I went thru BFs phone
Rags.. I went thru BFs phone twice.. And each time I found..
Pic of BM
BM asking BF if he likes her new hair cut
BM saying "I miss you"
BM saying "you always looked better with a blonde..MUAH"
BM saying "I miss you"
"DG is a tramp"
So on and so forth! If BFs phone didn't give me reason to mistrust, I see ur point.. If BFs only grudge against me is me looking at his phone, come on.. And BF says "I worry about you being alone out there" ????? Seriously?? And I have no reasons to worry or be upset? And I look at his phone the 2nd time to see out of curiosity if their texting stopped.. And WOW, now they are having conos like that???
HAHA, so I sent BF a
HAHA, so I sent BF a message..
"Did you tell BM what time to bring the kids, I won't be home."
BF: "I told her when I get home from work".
ME: "that's fine. I won't be home so I wanted to make sure you didn't think they were getting dropped off to me"
BF: "that's fine..are you gonna be with them sun when I'm at work or what?"
ME: "what do you mean?"
BF: "I work days sun, are you gonna be home?"
ME: "why wouldn't I be?"
BF:" Just checking"
Quite comical how already BF is asking if I'm gonna watch his kids!! Whoa, wait a second?! The kids I deny BF to see??? OMG!! The kids that are only coming to our house this wknd because I'm off work?? Geez, I guess I am a raging bitch after all!!! How dare I?
I'm excited to hear how your
I'm excited to hear how your night out goes!!!!