I have two step sons and a wife that will allow them to do what ever they please and they have no respect for me. They think I have to respect them more then them respecting me .I have tried to get involved in there lives but can't make the connection as bad as it is my wife has pushed the 16 year old to do dance for the past 5 years ......I don't understand how he acts and don't know what to say to him ....he walks around like a girl talks like a girl has not one friend that is a guy all girls don't even know what a hard day at work is ....well on to the next one he is 19 ...with no job ..no DL no car and no reason to do anything. ...I have told him to get on with his life and do something ....by the time I was both of there ages I had a job a car and money ....pleas help me :?