Ok i admit this sounds alot more negative then i ment it to be and there are many positives about having skids: I just wanted to write down all the things i didn't think would actually happen during the honey moon phase of having skids around. The following list is not to say these thing happen every day or any kind of frequency but they have happen at least once and i really didn't expect or know most of it b4 i went threw it. Im not trying to scare just prepare! Inspire of all of it i still love my DH and my skids... I just don't like them once in a while lol

1. There will be numerous occasions where your spouse will spend more money on the kids then they deserve or then you can afford

2. BM will generally feel that her needs/wants trump yours because she has children with him.

3. You WILL have fights over the actions of your skids

4. Your skids are fully aware of how much trouble they can cause your marriage if they choose to!

5. When you feel your skid will learn something by being told no.... DH WILL say yes!

6. Bio parent expects you to praise the good and completely ignore the bad

7. Your skids will NEVER respect you more then their bio's!

8. DH would rather be mad at and blame you then hold his kids accountable for their actions.

9. DH will provide more excuses for their mistakes then even they can come up with.

10. The rules you and DH agree on for the skids will be bent or broken.... DH WILL fold!

11. There will be times you feel and are being left out.

12. Your in-laws probably won't feel your good enough for their grandkids/nieces and nephews

13. Your DH does not want your parenting advice unless he asks for it.

14. If you have no children of your own... It will be used against you sooner or later