Hi. I am a divorced mother of 3 (son-19 lives with his dad; daughter-16 lives 50/50; daughter-8 lives w/ me and has bi-weekly visitation with her dad). I waited 2.5 years from my split with my ex to decide I was ready to date again. I met a wonderful man who was freshly separated and going through a divorce. We ended up moving in together rather fast, which in hind sight might not have been the best idea, but here we are and I need to find a way to make it work. My boyfriend has two sons (15 & 12). The 15 year old won't speak with his dad, the 12 year old we have 50% of the time. My BF refuses to set rules of any kind with his 12 year old and caters to him to the extreme in my mind. I refuse to treat the children differently so mine do not have chores since he won't have his son do chores. He has to sit in his sons room to get him to do homework. He has to lay with him to each night until his son goes to sleep. Should he wake up in the middle of the night he comes and gets his dad since he can't sleep. To me this is ridiculous. I don't do that for my 8 year old. I mention it, but he only says that he is nice and knows he caters to his son. I'm trying to be patient and see if things settle down. We plan on marring this year. I'd appreciate any advice for dealing with this.